Why does she think this is a joke?

[Cop2be]

A while back my dog flipped out on me because I tried to roll him over when he was on the bed...he looked at me as if he didn't know me and did this super creepy deep throat growl at me, he sounded possessed, he backed me into a corner and was snapping and barking at me. My mom and brother had to intervene and get him out of the room.

Now my mom thinks its down right hilarious to make this dog bark, growl, snap, over all wig out when I am near him...and she takes great joy in telling him "get her" and other crap along those lines.

Just NOW, like I just came up to my room to write this it was that soon, she decided it would be funny to do it again. I was sitting on the couch eating and she was grabbing him back legs, making him bark, growl, etc and was saying "bite her knee", "get her", "go on go get her"....im just sitting on the couch watching this dog SNARL while shes pushing on the back of his head making him look distorted and evil...just staring...obviously I am not over what happened, I still am very sensitive about it, I get like horrid flashbacks every time I hear him growl or when he snarls and I almost started crying watching her do it again...FFS..

She thinks its funny and she does it all the time, I can't deal with it anymore.
I walked off with my food and went upstairs and told her she was really dense and just didn't get it...she can forget me helping with the dishes tonight..

How can I get this through to her?

[singledad]

When everything is calm and the dog is either relaxed or out of the way, try to explain to your mother that animals can't talk, so if they don't like what you're doing, they show their distaste for it by getting aggressive. Firstly, angering a dog for fun, is no different from bullying another kid on the school grounds. Both have the purpose of angering or upsetting the victim because you find it funny. IMO teasing a dog like that borders on animal abuse.

Secondly, tell her that if the dog feels continually threatened, one day it will lash out and bite someone. I don't know what kind of dog it is, but if its a big dog, this game can actually be dangerous for both you and your mom.

When you explain this to her, don't be aggressive, or accusatory. (You’re no better that a school-ground bully!) rather just inform her of your feelings and of the facts (I think the dogs feels scared or upset that you do that, and laughing at it for being upset is not a nice thing to do.). Maybe she’s never thought about it that way.

[Jordy]

i agree, i have an alaskan malamute called Bono and he is very gentle but i wouldn't ever try to make him aggressive because as gentle natured as he is i know that he is a bog dog and could potentially cause damage.. even if you have a small dog I'm sure your mother wouldn't like you to grab her legs until she gets mad and frustrated so it isn't fair to do it to your dog...

[Cop2be]

We have a golden retriever.
He is sweet, cuddly, lovable and is kinda dumb acting...a little clueless acting at times but he's cute.

They both play so rough with him and I don't.


I have tried to talk to her about it. She dismisses my feelings. She continues to do stuff anyways.

[bssage]

You know usually I dont give real specific advice. I am going to make an exception.

In My Opinion this is what you should do.

Every time you come over, even if you visit daily. Take 15 to 20 minutes to work with the dog. The dog will love the attention. Maybe a couple treats but I have found a nice rub or pet works just as well. Take him for a little walk. Work on a couple of basic comands (sit, stay) If you do this as part of your visit routine in very short order (maybe a week or less) you will be the one in control. My experience with these breeds are they love, love a little one on one attention.

Its just my opinion but I really think if you did this you can win this battle in very short order.

[Cop2be]

Bssage I still live at home.
I was eating dessert on the couch when she started doing that crap in the living room...which is why I went up to my room to get away from her...

And I spend plenty of time with the dog and he listens to me way better than he does her....I have no more problems with the dog its just I'm still really sensitive about everything and I hate when she makes him do that stuff. I've told her many times that I hate it and it makes me feel uneasy yet she seems like she doesn't really care.

[bssage]

I dont want to come off as bossy. But when I say spend time I mean specific time doing something training related. It will change your relationship with the dog.

This type of dog thrives when properly trained. Again I am not talking about play time thats different. 15 to 20 minutes training whatever you want to train. I think you will be surprised how you interaction will change. I can make a slight noise or hand gesture and my dog will stop doing unwanted behavior. And all I did was train him to walk on a lead and sit/stay. The little bit I did extends far beyond what I meant to accomplish. And beside that hanging out with a dog helps lower you stress.

[xox.ilu.xox]

I totally agree with bssage. I have a husky cross..shes got 1/8 timberwolf in her. when she was a puppy shes was a hellion. Shes's 3 now, and now that i spend more time with her and take her for walks and do some training stuff with her, shes done a complete turn around. shes listens far better to me then she does to my husband. sometimes just being around them isnt enough, you have to spend some specific time with them.

as for your mom...i would have a one on onetalk with her. personally if i were you, i would look at moving out.

[Cop2be]

I totally understand you bssage, I just thought you thought I didn't live at home.

But the stuff about the dog, I think I am going to train him how to walk on the leash better, since he is a nightmare to take for walks.

And like I said, the relationship with me and the dog is just fine now, he listens to me pretty well...I can just point and he'll go to his cage, I don't even have to say anything.

The problem is with my mom and her making the dog show signs of aggression around me...that I don't like..

Can I train my mom too? LOL JK JK