am i really teaching "bad parenting"?

[superman]

i gotta son hes 5 years old. his mom is just freakin nuts man. we live in canada, but shes originally from the new york state. nyways she was just a one nighter and weve been dealing with each other since then. since she got knocked up sshe dislikes me for somethin or another. i dont know what the hell i did. i have my boy 2 times a week, n for the past week shes not lettin me see my boy.. i come over to get him & hes gone out with his mother. shes makin up these bullshit excuses so i cant see my son no more. she dont like the fact that i take him huntin with me (n a few friends)... which shes against but still. our son isnt her he gotta develop his own opinions.. we come from 2 different cultures, shes a city girl and ive always been raised country. ive been huntin since i was little with my stepdad and im fine. another thing she brings up is that i drink too much when our sons around at my house. which isnt true at all man. i have max 4 beers when my kids wuith me. she says thats not a good influence for him. we aregued on the phone about this for a couple hours and she was so close minded about everythin i had to say.

i just wanna know if you guys think these are valid reasons... what can i do bout this?
i guess i should include that i recently got charged for assault within the past month. i was let off thank god but with a fine and anger management classes. im sure this has added to her hate for me lol

[Jeremy+3]

In the UK if someone was charged for assault they would not be allowed around any where near children without constant supervision in an access centre, and then the live in parent would have to give permission for that to happen.

I don't value any man who considers the mother of his child crazy, that she got knocked up (were you not there or something), or someone that drinks four beers around their child, I would never let someone care for my children if they had been drinking that much.

You think your ex is close minded yet you aren't willing to change anything yourself, maybe you should look closer to home as to why you are being denied your son.

[Antoinette]

is it too early to call troll? it just seems like this is quite a provocative post... anyway incase its not a troll.

4 beers is 4 beer too many to drink around your child, you see him twice a week for christ sake. drink on the other 5 nights and let him have two nights with a sober father, you don't want him to remember you as the drunk his mummy made him be around. and to tell you the truth if my Ex drank like that around my child i would probably have the same reaction she has.

I'm not going to touch the assault issue because Assault can vary in so many ways Im not going to say that necessarily makes you an unfit parent. so long as it wasn't assault on your child.

also this has nothing to do with your post but the way you write is very irritating. i feel like i need to go through and edit your post so you can pass your grade three creative writing assignment.

sorry if this seemed harsh as it wasn't supposed to be i just don't like parents who drink and smoke around their children as this is what my parents did with me and i remember it very well so I'm sure your son will too

[singledad]

Originally Posted by superman

i just wanna know if you guys think these are valid reasons... what can i do bout this?

To answer your question simply and briefly (and hoping that you're a troll):
1) Yes.
2) Stop drinking, at least when your son is with you. Respect your son's mother's whishes when it comes to what he is exposed to. Attend your anger management classes, and try to actually learn something there.

Frankly, in your son's mother's shoes I'd not only deny you access, I'd get a restraining order. After completion of your anger management classes, I would maybe consider supervised visits, but I would never leave my child alone with someone who has had even one beer, let alone four.

btw - does the drinking happen before or after the hunting? I'm just thinking that guns + drunk parent + small child = tragic accident waiting to happen.

[Xero]

I think its a troll, but I don't know. Either way, this is a pretty messed up post.

I'll just repeat, you shouldn't be drinking at ALL around your child. Four beers, is four beers too many. That's horrible.

And she didn't get "knocked up", YOU had SEX with her and were too stupid to wear a condom. Grow up and accept the fact that you made a child, and you should be going out of your way to be a MAN and raise him right. That means NO drinking, swearing, or smoking pot around him. Yes, I did notice the pot leaf on your icon. WTF is up with that???

Your life should not be about drinking, smoking, and assaulting people. You are a grown man, not a hormonal teenager, and you have a child of your own. You need to get your crap together and grow up and do the right thing by your child, and apologize to his mother for putting her child in the position that you have.

And watch your language, its insanely inappropriate for this family forum.

[Father_0f_7]

Yes, I did notice the pot leaf on your icon. WTF is up with that???

You beat me to it. I was just going to mention that.

And to answer your question. YES they are VERY valid reasons for her to keep him away from you.

[xox.ilu.xox]

this post just makes canadians look bad!!!! my god man, grow the frig up!!!!!!!

[meow_173]

Originally Posted by superman

i gotta son hes 5 years old. his mom is just freakin nuts man (who isn't ). we live in canada, but shes originally from the new york state. nyways she was just a one nighter (ever heard of a condom?) and weve been dealing with each other since then. since she got knocked up sshe dislikes me for somethin or another (i can't see why...i mean you only knocked her up...but its her fault too. So maybe she's hating the both of you but taking it out on you). i dont know what the hell i did. i have my boy 2 times a week, n for the past week shes not lettin me see my boy.. i come (came over) over to get him & hes gone out with his mother. shes makin up these bullshit excuses so i cant see my son no more. she dont like the fact that i take him huntin with me (he's 5.....i can understand why she might not want that) (n a few friends)... which shes against but still. our son isnt her he gotta develop his own opinions (he's 5.....FIVE. FIve year olds dont have the ability to develop their own opinons....espeically about hunting) .. we come from 2 different cultures, shes a city girl and ive always been raised country (hunting is still dangerous for a 5 year old no matter where you come from). ive been huntin since i was little with my dad and im fine. another thing she brings up is that i drink too much when our sons around at my house. which isnt true at all man (are you sure man? Dude, really? This is messed up yo). i have max 4 beers when my kids wuith me.(LOL i understand that alcohol affects everyone differently, but you shouldn't be drinking when your kid is around anyway) she says thats not a good influence for him (or safe for him....). we aregued on the phone about this for a couple hours and she was so close minded about everythin i had to say.

i just wanna know if you guys think these are valid reasons... what can i do bout this?
i guess i should include that i recently got charged for assault (did you assult her?) within the past month. i was let off thank god but with a fine and anger management classes. im sure this has added to her hate for me lol

I'm sorry but your situation is F*ed up . And unfortunatly YOU sound like you are F*ed up as well.

ANyway, even if this was a troll, it was fun to point out your misfourtunes and your inability to spell or use grammer properly.

[NPRhead]

Geez, I drink two beers and I can't drink anymore. Due to nausea, not even drunkenness, thank gosh! I can't imagine 4, and acting gracefully afterward.

The avatar made me almost dismiss him right there. It's one thing to be a pro-marijuana parent. It's another to advertise the fact like you're being "cool".

[Xero]

Its not even that I'm really against marijuana, I just think its insanely immature to advertise how much you like it using your icon picture on a PARENTING forum.