Stepmother problems

[IowaMom]

sorry wrong thread...will fix

[lovebeingamum]

Today I have received a call from the girls' school to say that the girls are being abused and they are concerned.

M has been starving and her friends have been giving her food at school.

Their stepmother has been locking N in her room as soon as she gets home from school and not feeding her.

M & K were allowed cereal for dinner.

K says that she was dragged out of bed, kicked in the back and called a bitch.

Today I will be filing a police report, and my lawyer says that I can guarantee the children will be taken from that home and given to me full-time instead of shared custody right now.

I can't believe how this woman has been treating my babies; or that their father hasn't been protecting them.

[xox.ilu.xox]

oh my goodness!!!! Im glad you aregetting your children out of that environment as soon as possible! Charges should be laid on that woman, that is horrific! your poor babies

[MomoJA]

So, so sorry for what is going on. I don't want to sound like an alarmist, but if you can, go into hiding for a few weeks. This woman sounds insane and no telling what she might be capable of. Sorry if I'm setting you in a panic, but this sounds really concerning.

[buddylovebabi]

I haven't read all of the posts on this forum, only the first page so if this was addressed I'm sorry.

as the opposite side of this story (the step mom) i have ALL of these things said about me. none of them are true, however the child has realized that his mother yell at him and punishes him when he says good things about me, and praises him and rewards him when he says bad things about me.

So I have been accused of "Forcing him" to call me mom, bad talking his mother, and in general just being a horrible person who the child dislikes and can't stand being around.

Now, in my and the father's presence the child says he loves me and likes to call me mom sometimes. (Which he is allowed to if he wants) he also tells us terrible things about his own mother, including the fact that he never sees her.

(Which we believe, he lives with his grandparents and they have been claiming that the mother lives with them and the child, but most recently the grandmother posted to her facebook that the mother was going to be homeless and the grandfather won't let the mother stay with them... i thought she ALREADY WAS staying with them??? i guess not.)

I understand that if your child has eczema and they aren't treating it properly, that is very worrisome and should be addressed.

As the "evil stepmother" i also think that her goign to the school and claiming to be there biological mother is wrong, and trying to prevent you from going to the school is wrong, but he going to events for him (like concerts, sports events, boy scouts/girl scouts is not you should prevent. She may be a bad influence on the children but that doesn't mean she is any less their step mother.

I don't know you and i don't know your entire situation, but the mother of my step son posts stuff like this constantly and what she says about me is just not true. your children should probably go to real counseling and talk to someone who isn't a parent. often times kids say bad things about the other parent to get more attention from the parent they are with, i'm sorry but it is just a cold hard fact of life.

please have the kids go to a professional where they can voice their opinions and feeling without worrying about whether anyone will take it personally or get mad at them for what they say.

[lovebeingamum]

I don't really like the suggestion that I am making this stuff up to be honest. I came here for support because what I am saying is true.

[buddylovebabi]

i am not suggesting you are making stuff up, i am suggesting that your children see a therapist so that they can talk with a neutral party who they don't have to "please." which trust me, regardless of what you say to your children they will try to please you any way they can, unless they are rebellious, at which time they will try to disappoint you any way they can. right now your children may be in the first stage. i know my step son spacifically says that bad things happen whil he is with myself and his father just to make his mother happy, or to make her feel like he is more "on her side"

regardless of all that, it was only an honest reply, and if you don't want conflicting opinions or ideas, please state that in your original post next time.

[Father_0f_7]

I think it is polite to read all of the replies before you jump to conclusions. The OP has stated that not only do the children tell her these things but their teachers have also told her, not because the children told them but because the teachers have reason to believe there is abuse going on.

[buddylovebabi]

fair enough, regardless the children should see a professional especially if the ARE being abused, it's very emotionally traumatizing for a child, and my advice still stands.

[Father_0f_7]

I agree with that, I never said it shouldn't be done. I know exactly how traumitizing it is.