Can a Man Talk TOOOO Much?

[ntbuddy]

I'm told that I talk to much. I would think this would be good as I always hear that a guy only talks a small part of that of a women. Is it possible that I, or other guys, talk too much? I'm told I'm more women than most women because I talk so much. I would think this is a good thing but it seems to be one of the problems that we have as I guess too much is a bad thing?

What's your opinion on this?

[musicmom]

My opinion is it depends on WHAT you are saying. If you are rambling like a know it all then yes, it's too much.
If you are trying to be funny and you have a dry sense of humor but you keep going anyway then yes, it's too much
If keep going on and on about senseless who gives a s**t stuff then yes it's too much.

Honestly, if people tell you that you're talking too much then maybe you need to listen more then speak?

[ntbuddy]

I just talk. lol. I would call it more small talk than anything. I just like to talk. Even in the things I know I know more than most I don't consider myself a know-it-all as I feel no one can truly no it all.

[musicmom]

IF you talk like you type, you do repeat yourself alot. Maybe that's why? Just grabbing at straws for ya.

[Kaytee]

I think that if they think you talk to much then they need to shut up! lol Of course if this is your SO then I would say maybe you need to listen more

[FooserX]

I would say if 3 or more people have said you talk too much...then you probably do, and there are a lot more people who haven't even had the nerve to tell the same thing.

[jtee]

Often people feel a person talks too because that person has poor listening skills, when others are talking, poor listeners are busy thinking about what they are going to say next.

[evilbrent]

Originally Posted by jtee

Often people feel a person talks too because that person has poor listening skills, when otherd are talking, they are busy thinking about what they are going to say next.

This is a good point.

If you talk too much and you think it's bothering people, try asking them questions about themselves. It can be ANYTHING.

If what you crave is conversation, then just ask people about what they're reading or something. Everyone loves to talk about themselves...

I sympathise, I'm a conversational person who married a decidedly unconversational person.

For instance, for me, a road-trip is an excuse to sit next to someone and just _talk_ together for 7 hours. My wife sees road trips as an excuse to vague out and watch the scenery flow past.

The first few trips we took together I assumed she was pissed at me the whole time because we were passing the time in stony silence. I didn't understand, and every time I started any conversation I'd get a cut-off answer "I guess so." "I've never really thought about it." "Sure, why not?"

We're just different people who have different needs. Both our needs are important, and both need to be communicated. "I have a need to feel connected to you, I want to know that you respect my ideas. I love it when we explore a topic together, even if we don't agree." vs "I have a need to just _be_ with you. I need to have time where you're satisfied just spending time in my company without making any demands on me."

(Have I got that last one right? I'm guessing.)

[musicmom]

I'm with your wife evil. As a mother we do not get to watch scenery go by. I love to sit on the couch and watch the leaves blow in the wind. It's so calming and still.
Mothers are always so mentally needed sometimes our brains just need a break.

[evilbrent]

nah, with her it's always been like this.

for instance, in my family, the dinner table usually had at least 2 conversations going on at once, sometimes 3. And there were only 4 of us.

In my wife's family there's usually about half a conversation at the dinner table, and there's 5 of them.

It was a real culture shock for me the first few years of going to dinner at their house, because I'd be babbling away wondering no-one else wanted to say anything, and they'd be quietly enjoying their dinner wondering why I was talking. Worlds colliding.

Another example: the first time I took my fiancee up to sydney for the christmas holidays to meet my extended family - Beth actually went out the back to cry because it was too overwhelming. Obviously we were all very sympathetic when we found out, and 2 of my aunties and my mum (3 brothers in family, so all three women married into the family) all admitted that they'd done the same thing when they first took our surname.