crying daughter

[dianamom]

Please someone, help me with my daughter. She is 18 and has been dating the same jerk (he's 17) for 2 years. He's "Mr. Baseball player" at their school with a huge ego and thinks all the girls want him. He has made my daughter cry so much that she now has emotional problems. It's gotten so bad that she doesn't even know how to cope with simple stress. Like being late for something. She just freaks out over things that shouldn't cause such an emotional uproar. She has found out so many times that he is seeing other girls. He even had sex with one of her "so called" best friends. They'll break up and then he'll start texting her and brain washing her to believe that he can't live without her,she's the one, he'll just die without her, blah, blah, blah. He will literally cry like a baby to cinvince her that he just can't live without her. She falls for it and they're right back together again. Within a week, he's back to his sneaky ways again. My daughter is the type that doesn't want anyone mad at her. Just last night she cried on the phone for 2 1/2 hours until I finally went in her room and told her to hang the phone up and that I could not take her crying any more. It hurts me so bad to lay in bed and hear her cry and feel her pain. It makes me cry too. She yelled at me to get out of her room, stay out of her life, screamed out she had no privacy and I told her I could not take it any more. Please someone, what do I do as a parent? Her dad is so affraid she is going to commit suicide. I'm so worried and hurt. I want to call him. What do you think? I'm so sick of their bad relationship that is is causing problems between me, my husband and our daughter.

[Kaytee]

wow hun, I am so sorry for you and especially your daughter. I have no experince with this, I say that a lot on this board. Anyways I would be very concerned as well and it is an extremely tough situation. On one hand if you ignore it, you don't know what will happen to her emotionally or worse, physically. However pushing to far into it may cause her to rebel further from you and that would also be horrible. I hope others will be able to give better advise. I would say the only thing that I would say is to sit her down, when she is not overly emotional (crying for 2 hours before) and tell her you are concerned about her relationship with this guy but that you will support her in whatever decision she makes, and that if she ever needs to talk to you that you will always be there. Good luck hun