Why it is Important to plan your Family

[Father Blogger]

Family planning is a non-stop issue between the Philippine government and the Catholic Church. I wonder how other countries are taking this matter. But while the debate is on, more and more families are increasing their number of children. According to National Geographic Kids News, about 245 babies are born every minute, around the world. I know it is fun to watch children playing, but how about their future? I only have two children and here are my reasons why I choose to limit them.

Economical

Obviously, prices of oil are rapidly increasing and this is a chain reaction. I supposed no one will debate me if I say it is cheaper to have only few mouths to feed. We must remember that the basic needs of every child are common, health, clothes and education. So for every additional child you will have the more expenses it will be. If you failed, some or all of them will suffer the consequences. If this happens, you cannot blame anyone but you and you alone.

Health concerns

Mothers are getting weaker as she is giving more births, and it is common sense. Although some may not feel it at once, her body will sag earlier as compared to those who had fewer births. Resistance to sickness will be reduced and stamina for everyday life will be greatly affected. But do not think that men are excuse for this matter. If you have a lot of children, you as the provider will need to work harder and your time to rest will be minimal.

Quality time

Let us say your income is good and you can afford to feed a lot of children. But can you also afford to divide your time with them? Parenting is a very tough job and time is a very important factor. You cannot show your love for your children if you are only focusing on their physical needs. No matter how you try, you cannot spend time with them equally. There will be some lapses which can lead to sibling jealousy. Next to it is drugs, teenage pregnancy, and worst suicide.

The next generation

Experts think the world population could reach nine billion by the year 2050, and that is scary scene. Some of us may not be around by that time, and it will be then our children’s responsibility. Can you imagine how hard life will be for children’s children? We are working hard everyday to fulfill the dreams of our children, but are their future children included in our concern? The world is our responsibility and we will pass this on to the next generation, and so on.

Children are gifts to enjoy but they are born also to enjoy.

Article Source: Happy Family Matters

[Dadu2004]

I understand these reasons, but I will have as many children as God is willing to bless me with. Right now, I'm planning on 2 more (total of 3), but we'll see what the future has in store!

[Father Blogger]

I think having 3 children these days is still affordable, sarushjr. However, you may want to consider their age gap too.

Mine is 5.

[Trina]

I'm all for family planning, but sometimes God has other plans. Our youngest child was a pleasant surprise. We had planned on having at least two children, but not quite so close together. Now after the fact, I know it was meant to be and we couldn't be happier.

[ljmahr]

As far as being able to feed our kids, yes we can. No government assistance! I think my hubby and I do a good job of dividing up our time with them. My 2 oldest and I will go to a movie of their choice once a month, one at a time. I drive them on all girl scout outings which spends time with 2 at a time. My hubby was my oldest's softball coach. Our 2 youngest take turns going to the store and such with us. My first and 4th babies were surprises but the other's were planned. I love having our big family! I guess I am just making up for the people who do not want any kids, lol.

[ljmahr]

Well, my dream was always to have kids. I always wanted my boy and girl, it just took 5 kids to get it, lol. I see it more that people need to grow up and take care of their responsibilities more than people need to adopt children that are already here. JMHO. Besides it takes so much more money to be able to adopt a child. My cousin is adopting twin babies that are about 1 yr. old and it is costing them at least $20,000 just to get them. That doesn't include airfaire to get them, food while they are there, other expenses. Maybe that is part of why people do not adopt and have children made by them.

[Anna78]

All my children have been amazing blessings, and only Beau was planned. The only time I ever struggled slightly was as a single mother, but even then, it was certainly managable. I have never been on benefits (apart from the children support from the government, which everyone gets). I do however think that there are too many people having lots of children and not really being able to afford them. I also think its abit much to say that if you don't spend much quality time with your child, they are going to end up on drugs!

[Father Blogger]

Originally Posted by Anna78

I also think its abit much to say that if you don't spend much quality time with your child, they are going to end up on drugs!

Illegal drugs are so-called friendly enemies of children who lost their way. If only parents will be mature enough to understand, if only.

[fallon]

neither of my children were planned and they are the best thing that ever happened to me. The only reason I have for planning the next one is so their birthdays aren't to close to each other or christmas...lol

[ljmahr]

Originally Posted by Father Blogger

Illegal drugs are so-called friendly enemies of children who lost their way. If only parents will be mature enough to understand, if only.

From the way I read your first post on this I am in agreement that it is a little much to say just because I have(or will have) 5 kids that they will end up on drugs or be a teenage parent due to not being able to spend quality time with them. I think that statement is completely false to say "ALL" families with several children. My kids are very well loved and paid attention to. Along with other things we do for and with them that I have previously mentioned, we also eat every dinner at the table all together every night. I know more families with only 1 or 2 kids who do not even do that. I think its more of not teaching your children to respect theirselves and not having talks about those things is the reason kids end up in situations like that, not because they have 3 or 4 other siblings.