Help Caught Son Viewing Gay Sex On Internet

[momof3terrors]

Im terrified to find that my 13 year old son was caught looking at pornographic material on the net.. He is not aware that we know. We found out by checking the history in the computer and immedialty put on NEt nanny. There is something even more disturbing It was all gay sites that he was viewing. My son Likes girls and hasnt show in any way that he could be gay. Why would he want to look at that type of material. Is this a bad sign or is this normal. Please Im so disdraught and we havent said a word to him in regards because we know it would be terribly embarrassing for him. My husband will definatly be talking to him but not letting him know what we saw and know about the computer. ANy help on this matter would be so appreciated. Thanks in advance!

[mamab]

Wow, momof3, I would be distraught, too. I would think that being curious about sex, in general, would be normal at his age, particularly if you and your husband haven't talked with him about it much. However, I don't know how "normal" it is to be interested in gay sex. All I can do is offer my ear and a prayer that you will receive wisdom in dealing with your son, and the ability to get to the bottom of his interest. Just remember, temper all of your words with unconditional love. God bless.

[tater03]

I would definently have your husband have that conversation. I would think that maybe a lot of boys his age that might not know a whole lot about sex and gay sex in particuliar could just be curious. Maybe he heard something at school and wanted to know exactly what it was. I would feel out the situation with your son and see if it might not have just been curiosity.

[jmeyer3131]

I second that. It doesn't matter if talking about sex is embarassing; your son needs to know that he can talk about anything with his parents.

I do know that looking at porn is very normal for teens, as long as it's not excessive. Whether or not he's attracted to gay porn or just trying to compare himself to others sounds like your real question.

Filters are a great idea. Good luck with this touchy issue.

[Stephanie2377]

OH, I know this is very upsetting. I am sure the thought of your son looking at porn online is upsetting enough, and to have it be gay porn throws even more turmoil into it.

I truly think that looking at porn is an age old teen activity. It just used to be much less sinister with the Playboy magazines and such. I am betting your son was just very curious, and had access to look at the sites. I know that I, myself, as a teen girl saw photos of two girls together. We were looking at a porn magazine and were fascinated to see two girls together. It was purely morbid curiousity since we had always heard so much about it.

I think it would be good for your husband to have a chat with him. Your son needs to know that he can talk with his parents, whether he is truly attracted to gay porn or if it was just being curious.

HUGS to you!!

[trick-r-treat]

This was probably just out of curiosity - I wouldn't assume that he was particularly interested in it other than that it was "sex" in general.

[SageMother]

Originally Posted by momof3terrors

Im terrified to find that my 13 year old son was caught looking at pornographic material on the net.. He is not aware that we know. We found out by checking the history in the computer and immedialty put on NEt nanny. There is something even more disturbing It was all gay sites that he was viewing. My son Likes girls and hasnt show in any way that he could be gay. Why would he want to look at that type of material. Is this a bad sign or is this normal. Please Im so disdraught and we havent said a word to him in regards because we know it would be terribly embarrassing for him. My husband will definatly be talking to him but not letting him know what we saw and know about the computer. ANy help on this matter would be so appreciated. Thanks in advance!

It is normal for kids to be curious about hings the bring such horror to the adults around them. Your main concern should be the underaged viewing of porn. How he handles his sexuality is up to him. I have been an advocate for parents having to have their computer licensed, or any one with kids in the house for that matter, shwoing they have instaolleda "watch dog" prgoram and/or a password system to avoid those little jaunts into adult land before legal age.

[mamab]

A filter would be a great idea. However, if you haven't had a chance to discuss the incident with him yet, he might figure it out. Make it seem like the idea to get the filter was for everyone's safety. It also might be a way to open up a discussion about the incident, letting him know that you're aware, do not condemn, but are concerned as to why he was on that site. Let him know that you love him and want to shield him from things that are inappropriate at his age.

[trick-r-treat]

I think there are some blocks that you can put on your internet service. You might need to check with your Internet Service Provider on that.

[shazzie]

Hi everyone,
i am new here so i hope i am doing this right.....
I am a mum of 4 boys ages 20, 16, 14, 13....
I am worried about my 16 year old son, i have found out that he has been looking at gay web sites, he doesn't know i know, i found out from the history on our computer.....
My son has never had a girlfriend and he turns 17 in a few weeks, he is a quiet boy, i do not know what the signs are to tell if a teenager might be gay.... He doesn't seem gay to me but he has a different personality to my other boys he is more of a loner.....
i have not talked to my husband about this because he is anti-gay i have however asked him once in conversation if any of our sons were going to be gay who would he think it might be and he said our 16 year old then asked me why i asked but i did not tell him why.
my son is into motor bikes and cars and doesn't seem to be gay but as i said i do not know the signs.....
i would be ok if he is gay, i would be a little sad for him with what he will have to go though with other people and the way some people think but i would be ok with it....
does anyone know what the signs are? can anyone offer some advice
thankyou
shazzie