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"The first rule of parenting"
My husband is mad at me (again), as he believes I have broken "the first rule of parenting". In his opinion nothing is more important than a united front, but on this occasion I did not agree and could not see my little boy reduced to tears when he had done no wrong. So I went to my son and comforted him and told him not to worry about the threat of no karate classes as I would still take him.
So how important is a united front? And are there any rules on parenting? |
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11-21-2009, 01:10 PM
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Re: "The first rule of parenting"
depends on what you are fighting about.
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Re: "The first rule of parenting"
IMO your husband is right....unless of course he was punishing the child for no reason. You basically just told your son not to worry about what dad says. I think what you did was very disrespectful (sorry, not trying to be rude. Just answering with my honest opinion )
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11-21-2009, 09:38 PM
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Re: "The first rule of parenting"
yes I agree with both the above. your case would need some support with more information.
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Re: "The first rule of parenting"
What was your son doing? I think you should stand together in punishment, sometimes in our family a child has done something which one parent considers to be very bad, while the other believes it to just be mild. But that doesn't mean we tell each other like little children and show our children that we disrespect each other. We punish them, then talk it through when the children are in bed so if the behavior happens again we can agree on a way to punish.
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11-22-2009, 05:47 PM
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Re: "The first rule of parenting"
I dont think I could make a fair comment without knowing what actually happened.
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Re: "The first rule of parenting"
Well, I think that's the seccond rule of parenting - to me the first is "Never be out-numbered" (M2M may have some lessons for me on that.)
As for United front - I agree, it's vital - and if there's something you don't instinctively agree on, then you have to figure it out between yourselves and come to some agreement so what you present to the kids is united. |
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11-23-2009, 12:29 PM
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Re: "The first rule of parenting"
I agree with everyone. It does sound disrespectful, but I couldn't say for sure until we know what actually went down. You didn't even tell us what he did, or why you didn't think it was a big deal when your husband did. I can't really give you much opinion.
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