Male friends VS. Female Friends

[Cop2be]

As you all know I am an explorer.
In the post there are 3 girls and about 14-15 guys.

One female I don't know at all, she's new.
The other female is 16 and has to plan anytime she hangs out like 2 days ahead of time, so it's too impossible to hang out her.

Basically I am friends with the guys.
I am close with one of the guys who is 18, hes the only one I can talk to like I do female friends, basically he's like one of my best friends.
The other guy I hang out with a lot is like a little brother to me. He is 15, same as my brother but I can be around him and not feel like strangling him, he's like how my brother should be.

The other night the two guys were over and one of them and my brother started wrestling and my brother got pissed and kept trying to shoot the one who is his age with an airsoft and then his paintball gun. He panicked and run up the stairs and ran into the bathroom and slammed the door behind him. My mom got pissed at all the noise and started yelling. So the 3 of us went out side and sat in the 18 yro's car for a bit.

I called my mom and was like tell matt to unarm so we can come back in. She told me that they weren't allowed back in and that she wanted the house quiet. I told her we wanted to just sit down stairs and watch some movies. She was like if it was a girl friend I would say yes but no guys.

I don't get it.
I can't have male friends?
One is 3 years younger than me and the other is 5 years younger than me and both have girlfriends.

I have 2 pretty close female friends that I hardly ever get to see.
I get to hang out with my male friends pretty much everyday and I really enjoy hanging out with them than I do any of my female friends. Less of a head ache hanging out with them.

So what's her deal?

[AmyBelle]

Well, your friend should have kept off your brother.

Her house, her rules.

[Choppy]

It seems to me that you're going from a specific incident whereby your friends made an unacceptable ruckus, which your mother didn't approve of, to the general conclusion of not being able to have male friends.

I suspect, that if your female friends exhibited the same behaviour, they too would get the boot from your mother.

I wouldn't dwell on it too much. In the end you're the one who chooses your friends - male or female.

[Mom2all]

I have 3 teenage boys, and one 11 year old boy. I can see it completly from your Mom's side. She want's peace and quiet and deserves not to have to listen to fighting, not to mention the shooting of BB's and paintball guns in the house. WOW! Sometimes I wish I could send the loud children here home so I can get peace.. and then I rememeber they are home!

Try to see it this way. If you were babysitting a 5 year old... and she had to stay in your bedroom... and she invited 2 of her friends.. and the next thing you know they are tearing through your room, knocking your things over, spilling finger nail polish on your clothes and driving you nuts.. how long would it take you to send the ones your not in charge of home? Probally not long huh? Your Mom had every rite to regain quiet and keep her home from more damage~

[Xero]

I agree with what has been said. But I'd also like to add that I don't think really your mom was trying to tell you that you can't have male friends, I think really that she didn't want you to have your male friends downstairs in the privacy of her basement. Or not have your male friends over that are acting like 3rd graders.

[Cop2be]

For one, we would have been down in the living room.
And two, she specifically said "if I was a girl friend then you could have some one over but no guys".

And it was my brother who was trying to shoot my friend, who was scared.

Did my brother get into any trouble?
No Princess didn't get into an ounce of trouble. My friend wouldn't have made any noise if my brother hadn't tried to shoot him.

[AmyBelle]

Dude, when are you moving out?

Im sorry, but its just problem after problem.

[Cop2be]

Not soon enough.
As soon as I get the car fixed and get a job that makes at $1,000 a month.

I already have the apartments picked out.

[fallon]

wait...you're 23 yr old????....seriously, get your butt out of your mom's house if you're so unhappy there.

[Xero]

Fallon, she's 20. But I agree.

Originally Posted by Cop2be

The other night the two guys were over and one of them and my brother started wrestling and my brother got pissed and kept trying to shoot the one who is his age with an airsoft and then his paintball gun.

This is what I was referring to. I would never. Never. Get along with a KID who would wrestle with my LITTLE brother (which btw I have a brother that's the same age difference as you to yours) when I brought him over to visit with me. I just plain wouldn't hang out with kids that age for fun, but if you feel like you get along with someone that much younger than you that's completely your decision but its obviously not because he's mature for his age, since he was screwing around with your little brother and causing a scene. I personally wouldn't hang out with anyone that I would have to babysit.

Honestly, the whole story makes you all sound like little kids. When I lived with my mom between the ages of 19 and 20 I didn't have friends over. If I wanted to hang out and goof off, I left. I didn't bother my mom, who was generously allowing me to mooch off of her, with my loud obnoxious friends. I have younger siblings as well. Even if my friends were around my siblings, they never interacted with them. There's no reason that should have happened. You're an adult, you should hang out with other adults or don't complain about them acting like kids. Yes your mom was being witchy, but there's nothing you can do about that. Just go somewhere else.