Told friends "my mommy died"

[nkmommy]

OK..here it is as brief as I can make it....my six year old daughter is going thru a rough time right now. I have been sick on and off since she was born. I had Hodgkins Disease Stage IV, with tons of chemo, radiation and eventually a bone marrow transplant. I am in remission (the good news) however, I have MANY side effects from the treatments, I have had 3 back surgeries, my gall bladder out, salivary glands out and a pacemaker put in my body, because I have cardiomyopathy (all due from the treatments) The latest is my lungs are failing terribly and I most likely need a lung (s) transplant pretty soon. I cannot breathe, and am on oxygen 20 plus hours a day..so I have tubes in my nose.
We try to not let Nic hear too much "adult conversation" but as you are all aware, these kids are sponges and super smart! I also was in the hospital twice in the past year, in April for 3 weeks and this past Nov for 2 plus weeks...each time she was devestated. We have a very special bond and I dont know what to do.
She has been acting out somewhat against me and now the latest was telling her friends that I died. I feel so bad like I am damaging her.
I do have a therapy appt for her with a psychologist..because I want to "nip this on the bud" becauseI am unsure what my future holds, and I dont want her so unbearably upset. I cannot even leave the room right now, its almost like separation anxiety all over again. ANy help would be so appreciated. Oh one last sidenote...Nic is adopted, just like me! She has known since she could understand and embraces it..

[16th ave.]

i'm so sorry ya'll gotta go through this. she's growing up and she's feeling the emotions and scared and angry at you being sick and not being a "normal" mommy like her friends' moms are "normal". she's also probably afraid, hurt, upset about you possibly "leaving" her even though you "leaving" wouldn't be intentional like her parents did when they put her up for adoption. so she's acting out. its what kids do when they don't know how to express or understand what they are feeling.
keep up what you're doing and spend as much time with her as possible while not forgetting to hand out discipline as needed. but don't forget to give her freedom to do things on her "own". i also think you both doing the therapy is a good idea. it could help her express what's bothering her and teach her how and all that good stuff.

good for you guys on adopting. i think ou meant well adopting even though you got sick. you couldn't have known that would happen. i don't think you are necessarily damaging your daughter. yes, she's hurting from knowing her mom is sick. but in the end going through all this means she will most likely grow up to be the happy, healthy, responsible person you want her to be.

bless you all.

[margherita]

sometime the kids say things to protect from the sad situation.
when i child my father was sick and he spended many months in the hospital. i continued to go to school , to study, as if it had not succeded nothing. now i don't understain the last actions.
but i know that the love is the winner .