Got me thinking (scary I know)

[mom2many]

Phil's thread got me thinking, and I put it in debate cause I am not sure how it will go, better safe then sorry. This isn't about bashing Phil or anyone else but I am curious.

Now I have thoughts running through my head and will try to keep it coherent (I promise nothing were spelling is concerned ).

One theme in the thread was "Not my child, nor my problem" and basically an unwillingness (probably not the right word but the best my brain can come up with) to see things from the other side, not just here but on other sites also.

I am always saddened when I hear of a child who needs help or guidence and an adult just turns the other cheek cause they don't see where it is thier issue. We can't save the world, and we can't help every wayward child but if there is even the slightest chance to help one why would we not? I also don't mean go out and find a child but if one presents himself to us and we have the oppurtunity isn't it almost our moral obligation to try (strong words, I know)?

I mean I look at my oldest DD's boyfriend and see a community that has turned thier backs on him, they have never taken the time to get to know him or his brothers. He has some big issues, he is currently in rehab and is on probabtion, but I took the time to know him first before passing judgement on him, and what I found was a young man that has really never had anyone believe in him, a young man who has grown up with many disadvatages, a young man who reallu was looking for someone to say to him "You are worth more then the path you are taking", and in this last year I have seen him grow, I have watched a young man realise he isn't who everyone labled him as and that he doesn't have to live up to what people have said about him.

Had I done what so many other people have done, I would have missed the oppurtuntiy to meet this amazing young man...despite all of his faults. He knows what I expect of him, he understands my rules and because I have taken the time to believe in him he tries very hard to not dissappoint me. He isn't perfect and he ha had some missteps along the way but I don't feel this case is hopeless, I am not ready to throw in the towel.

I don't know, maybe I am thinking to much about a simple question.

[Jeremy+3]

I don't understand why an adult would discard a child either, I mean how would those people feel if their child's teacher decided to discard their child, or their doctor because it isn't their problem.

[16th ave.]

ditto to that mom2many. i can't answer your question. but then, you've seen where i stand already.

have a great weekend lady.

[Mom2all]

I believe that it takes a village to raise a child too. Something small we do now has the chance to ripple along and do great things later.. or do great harm.