Recent content by alter ego

personally Id split things evenly, but if your incomes were significantly different, id think about rather than a number value, more of a holistic approach. ie you earn less, so pay for bills groceries, but do all the food planning and prep, while she pays for the rent. Though im not a fan of...

the computer is in our study, and the younger ones are loosely supervised. Our older 2 share a laptop, and have wireless internet s use it in their room most of the time. I think that parents should monitor the internet to a certain extent, but also my kids are pretty sensible, and always have...

Ive just birthed our 7th child, and I really dont feel 'done' I always thought Id be finished by now, but I really want another 1-2 babies. Theres no reason why not (we have the space in the house, have a 12 seater van, and money isnt an issue) but part of me feels that we 'shouldnt' have more...

my toddler is the same with the newborn. She also wants to cuddle and touch him all the time, and isnt very gentle. So far we are using 'gentle touches' and positive reinforcement, and just plain distraction!

we do the same here, and have had success with reward charts. Our kids get out of bed easily, but take forever to get ready, and with 2 different school drop offs, and daycare (once a week) it can be a struggle to get anywhere!

My mil was controlling and jealous too, so we moved 3500km away :) She tried to split us up many times, refused to attend our wedding, and told me to abort 2 of our children, since I "couldnt cope" with the ones we had.

Nope. We have a set of clothes/toys/activities, and all the kids make their own choices about what they play/wear/etc My nearly 10yo son went through a stage of loving pink, no stress here :)

I think he should have had an extra few minutes to repeat the speech. Im all for encouraging multilingualness

My toddlers get very frustrated and will 'whinge' a few times a day (rather than actual 'upset' tears) especially now I am huge and pregnant, and cant always do what they want (ie carry them both at the same time, take them both swimming) It will pass!

I am 100% attachment. (though for the first time in 13 years we are about to have our bed to ourselves for a few months, as our toddlers are moving to their own room)

mom2many, its the opposite in my experience. every parent i know who smacks either threatens constantly 'sit or ill smack/do you want a smack' of just does it with zero warning. maybe as i was a teen mum most of my peers were also young parents and that is why? the 'alternative' parents i now...

see i prefer to guide my children, rather than 'train' them, and our household is a democracy. i beleive in bodily autonomy, and encourage my kids to respect themselves and make thier own informed decisions, rather tha* following the rules blindly :)

Personally we use a 'family planner' where EVERYONE has chores and responsibilities. We DO use stars when jobs are completed, and whoever has the most stars gets to choose our sunday activity. The only consequence of NOT completing chores is that mum/dad has to do xyz, and the child misses out...

Im very sorry for the loss of your wife. Now this may sound harsh, but you really need to let go of the past mistakes and focus on your future with Mei. One day she will be old enough to understand that after her mother died you werent able to look after her, and that you love her so much that...

I prefer to turn 'no' into 'yes' ie "its time to come inside and get ready for dinner." "No!" (I have a 10 month old and a 4yo, both will do this) "do you want fruit and yoghurt after dinner/ do you want to choose your bowl/do you want to pick the first story?" (One of these is always 'yes')...