Recent content by holbo

Hi, sorry for the delay to post an answer... as stated elsewhere I´m having net connection issues... Anyway, let me get straight to the point as this is something I´ve had experience with: 1. I Have ADHD myself 2. I have a son diagnosed "Development Disorder of other kind" (my own translation...

Clear cut answer!

First: sorry I´ve been away for some time now. My internet connection is acting up and it probably won´t be in perfect order before the end of this month... Next: It´s quite interesting to see that the main part of both mothers and fathers in here side with the father... As I see it, this is...

Hi, From how you describe yourself and your parenting values you seem to be a no-nonse guy. I like that! Makes things much easier when you don´t have to tip-toe around a difficult subject. Adding to that you said in another thread that you have a military approach to parenting. I like that as...

Please give some more info: How did he get by before he moved in with you? Where did he live? (by himself, in a co-ed, or?) Do you feed him or does he get his own food?

One of my mottos is this: "Always mean what you say, but do not always say what you mean" When I was 15 years old I confronted my dad with my feelings that he didn´t love me. He never told me he loved me and he chose other things over me etc. That day was one of the biggest challenges of my...

Listen, if he proposed to you just a few months ago, how on earth do you get the idea that he could in any way be embarrassed? You really should get those bad thoughts out of your head. They are doing no good to you or anyone else... Obviously he has issues regarding his ex and at some point...

Let me tell you a little story from my childhood that might lift the spirits a bit. While the story is partly fictional (meaning I pumped it up a bit) Stone Susan and her ability described below are fully accurate! Here it comes: About 300 yards from where I grew up there was a small house...

Let me say this: you strike me as being the spear that pierces the myth of the evil stepmother! You seem to be doing a very good job in a very difficult situation. My hat is off to you! [I sometimes wear a sixpence when it´s really cold, so it´s not just a rethorical choice of words ;)] The way...

Just saw your post... Hmmm... not an easy one... As a foreigner I am not completely familiar with the american education system, but as I understand it, your daughter is 16?

Thxs for the welcoming messages! I am new to the setup of this forum so I´m sorry I didn´t answer you right away...

Have you asked him why he prefers not to talk about it while she is present? It might the best way...? In any case the situation is difficult and involving a 5-year-old here in any way does have the potential to put her in harms way mentally speaking... She is in a tight spot however we twist...

OK, so it seems there is an issue regarding his ex? If that´s the case other questions comes up: Do they have joined costity? Does the girl live with you? And if not, how often does she stay with her mother? If the girl has regular contact with her BM I can fully understand why he doesn´t...

Hmmm... I´m getting a thought here and I don´t know weither I´m right about it or even if it´s appropriate for me to say, but since you´re asking about this I´ll give it a go: Could it be that he feels taken over when it comes to the wedding? I mean, if I try to put myself in his shoes, I would...

I don´t have any experience in this as we were married before we had any children, so my input may not be useful at all. Still, I wonder if there are issues that you both know will be hard to resolve regarding the wedding? If that´s the case maybe he has a point?