Recent content by jimrich

When she is under her mother's care, she follows her mother's rules and when she is under your care, she follows your rules! Tell her to leave the unacceptable garments at her mother's home and NOT bring it into your home! re: Is it stupid of us to expect sd to know our rules and follow them...

Until you are actually MARRIED TO THEIR MOTHER, I don't see how the kids are ever going to accept you as a family member or step father.

The "delinquency" of my older brother and I was the direct result of extremely INADEQUATE parenting! Our parents FAILED to promote love and respect within the family and unwittingly allowed us to slip slowly into very corrupt and delinquent behaviors so by our teens, we were quite bad...

I'd say this kid (just like we were years ago) is a VICTIM of extremely INADEQUATE parenting! But option 2 will actually HELP the now damaged kid if that's of any interest to anyone whereas option 1 is just going to toss more gas on the fire!

Well, so much for the moving fix. I don't see how just moving can change all the bad behaviors he has developed up to now. Did you ever consider looking deeply into WHY he does these thing? That seems like contempt to me. It's possible the teen is ANGRY that both of you are not even married...

My impression is that this kid has been given unusually good and adequate parenting! IMO, unless some mysterious disorder is at work, this is all about terribly inadequate and negligent parenting which somehow FAILED to socialize the 10 yr old properly. He's angry and hurt! It is very confusing...

I have no idea what you mean by: "independent" or "maid service" but, IMO, when kids are rude there is a serious fault in how they are or were being socialized - in other words, the kid is a victim faulty parenting! Maybe some mysterious "disorder" is at work there but I'd still call it...

Of course it's NOT RIGHT! If the step dad needs to punish anyone, it would be you for ignoring his rule. IMO, you and your current husband need to completely agree (or disagree) on the "rules" and stand by each other. This might mean going to marriage counseling - FOR YOUR KID'S SAKE. good...

I want to comment on this based on my own experiences. When I was about 8, our family was dining with some relatives and I was not eating some item on my plate. The aunt who cooked it said with a silly smile "Jim, how come you are NOT eating -----?" And I simply said "I don't like it." Her...

After the horrible mess alcohol made of my life and my dad's life, I do not enforce alcohol use for anyone, anywhere! I know how alcoholics, like my dad, want others to drink with them, hence the popularity of booze all over the planet but, in my case, alcohol is strictly out! Once you stop...

Does she know WHY you dropped out? Is that TRUE? You got EMBARRASSED and speechless! You could have explained things to her or just admitted that her response was EMBARRASSING! You're not "worried" - you're EMBARRASSED that she knows just enough (too much) to make you feel guilty! I'd rather a...

LOL, glad you don't hit but exactly what <I>would</I> "deserve being hit"? I'm astonished that he even cares! He seems kind of SADISTIC to me! Glad you finally took steps to protect your defenseless child! XOXOXOXOOXOXXO :)

Do you, Aimee, have <I>FEAR</I> issues towards your ABUSIVE husband? He has WAY MORE than a short fuse! He needs some kind of psychotherapy, IMO. ME TOO! IMO, he's a very sick CONTROL FREAK and there is nobody else in the family to defend or protect this child from his INSANITY! These men are...

And what does that teach ANY child? It sure didn't teach me anything other than to SNEAK behind my dad's menacing back to "do my thing"! But it sure is satisfying for the sadistic Spanker and isn't that their objective anyway? And one wonders WHY the non-abusivie parent both allows it or even...

You're the parent - set a good example! I learned most of my bad language first from our dad, then from others in our family and finally from peers but my conditioning to appreciate and acquire bad language STARTED WITH OUR PARENTS, who often FAILED to correct our potty mouths as we grew older...