Recent content by kathywhite

My wife should do the dishes She should pull her weight She needs to do more around the house Things should be fair between us Sounds like the reality is that she doesn't. And so you get to be right, she gets to be wrong and all that the problem is, is that your expectations are different from...

For me the question brings me to how my parents taught me not by what they said, but by how they behaved - what they modeled for me. Some of the modeling was not so helpful (anger, drinking, overwork) Some of the modeling was great (having fun, importance of family holidays, reading) Makes me...

Hey if you just found out that the child existed, in my mind, that's a lot of personal time, relationship building and getting to know you opportunity that will be given to you. I would personally put school on the back burner for a few months if you do get custody, of course tell the...

Just a point about whether or not the guy deserved it, or whether Casey was justified the real issue for me is the whole problem of bullying. When children grow up being bullied by their parents (at the very nicest bribed or coerced) they are being modeled how to bully others. Children model...

Making a committment to be with your child every day (all day?) is admirable. Wonderful. And I agree with other posters that that sort of committment would make me question why she then enters the workplace. It is unfortunate that traditionally in a homestead/farm traditional upbringing of only...

I swore in the car with a "jesus christ" once and my daughter piped up "where?" "Right there in the car in front of me " I replied - if he doesn't work out how to drive I'm going to crucify him.

<t>I just got sent an email from the whitedot organization in the UK: "Kids get excited at how easy they find not-watching. <br/> If at the end of the day they haven't watched TV, there's such pride."<br/> <br/> The People Behind It<br/> <br/> The TV-Turnoff...

Yes, this happens to my kids too. They do actually sit down and single pointedly watch TV when they are given the opportunity. We stay with friends in France who have a similar TV on as a kind of background thing that you describe happens in your home. Their girls float in and out watching or...

My suggestion is more about keeping calm and centred in yourself as you go about helping your son. Trust you will find the right person, help will be there for you. Meanwhile if you can just relax and be okay with where he is, how he is and what he reads like right now. Starting from a place...

How much screen time for kids? I just did a google search and was amazed at the concensus is about 2 hours a day should be max. When a toddler maybe having a 2 hour nap. Up at 7 and Bed at 7 for example that's 20% of his or her day in front of a screen. By the time they are 10 nearly a 1/4 of...

Yes, older parenting is FUN....I was 32 when I sadly lost my first baby, then 38 when my daughter arrived. 42 with my son...my husband is 13 years older than me... WE LOVE it, and we do look after ourselves, eat very healthily, practice yoga and meditation to keep fit and energy levels high.. I...

I guess this is what we all fear for our kids. Loosing them...the natural course of things is for us to get old and die before them. The world seems upside down when it doesn't happen. My first baby died at birth. It was just so hard. Now 14 years later I can see amazing and beautiful things...

we lifted our 8 year old out of bed until last year. If we didn't, 3 or 4 times a week she had "an accident", pull ups were a back up. we found carrying her to the toilet (half asleep) and putting her back to bed, as quietly as possible when we went to sleep at around 11pm (common call to...

Perhaps the exhaustion is as much to do with the struggle of having an ideal (getting Felix to bed by 7.30pm) and the reality (he's in bed by 8.40pm) That's over an hour of struggle. Would it serve you both to simply lie still, read stories and snuggle for an hour? If you are relaxed perhaps...

Hi I'm Kathy and have two children 8 and 4. I am passionate about making my life as a parent fulfilling and fun so that my children can experience me as a mom who loves her "job" as a parent. I have read several books about parenting that have hugely influenced me - Naomi Aldort, Alfie Kohn...