Recent content by OtherMother109

I was lucky, Belle. My son came up through an excellent public school where all the teachers and staff became involved in getting him through. My son did not have the special needs your daughter does, however I do have a friend with a daughter with cerebral palsy and another friend with twin...

I can hear the desperation in your words. It's obvious that you love your daughter and want what's best. I wish that I had advice, but I can only tell you what I did when I went through the bad years with my son. Whenever he acted out with someone new I would say, congratulations, he trusts...

Thanks for your message. I also think these kids just need someone to stand by them, both in the home and through different agencies. And, wow, congratulations on 5 children! You are blessed!

Oh, but I do have all the compassion in the world for these boys. That's why I felt I needed to advocate for them. They are most definitely victims here. I truly thank you for sharing your story. As I mentioned, my son was the victim of horrific sexual and physical abuse. I never have seen...

I hope that you understand that I agree with what you are saying. I am particularly taken by your "vampire" myth analogy. That's a very powerful insight into what it feels like to hear these comments. You see, I am an abuse survivor as is my son. He did have the horrible violence and abuse...

My son came to me when he was almost four. He went through hell before he came, and has had to deal with it now for 17 years. The two of us went through a lot, but I am happy to say that he is actually doing well. I'm not sure if anyone else in this forum has children with special needs...

I have a son who was diagnosed at various times with bipolar disorder. One doctor would put him on one thing, another would change the meds. It turned out that he wasn't bipolar, but rather had post traumatic stress disorder. In any case, if you can find a competent therapist who has good...

I can tell you feel very passionately about this. I have to stick with what I believe, but I respect your opinions. If nothing else, I still urge the father to get a second opinion from a competent therapist. I'd like nothing better than to be proved wrong.

I've been writing and rewriting this post to try and come up with a way to gently say something that is not gentle. I am a licensed foster parent, have been for almost 20 years. In my opinion, this is a reportable situation. This is sexual abuse. The older boy is doing this because he was...

I like what the other parents said, above. Try all those ideas, but in the end, it's up to you as the parent to draw the line. If she comes to your bed, gently take her back to hers. Make consequences if she doesn't stay there. She has to know that you are serious and that you will follow...

I agree with much of what the other posters have said, above. I think there is also one other step that you may be forced to take: intervention. If it comes to the point that your son is threatening you or anyone else in the house, you must act to protect all of you. Call the police. I know...