My first time to this forum, after browsing, I didn't really see a problem like mine but just want to put it out there and get any feedback.
To make a long story short. I have two children a daughter 13 and a son, 11. They get along but aren't what I call close. They argue and disagree alot and are completely opposite in their personalities. Thats just some history. Ok, the problem is : my daughter had a shower and was in her room dressing and noticed her brothers camera in her room behind her desk. She picked it up and realized it was set to video and recording her. It had been placed there that morning by my 11 year old son while she was in the shower in order to get video of her dressing or naked. At first he denied it and then he broke down. He admitted it and is remorseful. We are thrown for a loop. This came completely out of left field. He said it was for him and he was gonna delete it. He had a sleepover for later that day and I thought he might have tried to do it for that reason but he says no. We are confused, angry, and upset. My daughter is very angry and upset. My son is the same. This is a crisis. He says he feels sick about it and that it was an impulse and he didnt think, he just did it. I'm trying to be supportive to both of them but I'm torn. Think of the ramifications of this. I thought about a crisis center for him because of some of the things he said about himself and how he hates himself. I don't think he's a real danger to himself at this moment. With the holidays though it's hard to get immeadiate treatment or counseling. He insists this is the first time he's done it, but i'm all over the place with horrible thoughts. He talked to dad (who took him to work that day, we kept him from school) and said that he's having sexual urges and he's and curious. We have known that he's taking long showers for a reason and tried to give him his space.
Both of my children have gone through what i call "early puberty". My daughter at 13 truly has the body of a much older girl. I'm just really at a loss over this. any ideas or advice would be so helpful. I feel like this is so abnormal and i'm very worried for him and my daughter.
To make a long story short. I have two children a daughter 13 and a son, 11. They get along but aren't what I call close. They argue and disagree alot and are completely opposite in their personalities. Thats just some history. Ok, the problem is : my daughter had a shower and was in her room dressing and noticed her brothers camera in her room behind her desk. She picked it up and realized it was set to video and recording her. It had been placed there that morning by my 11 year old son while she was in the shower in order to get video of her dressing or naked. At first he denied it and then he broke down. He admitted it and is remorseful. We are thrown for a loop. This came completely out of left field. He said it was for him and he was gonna delete it. He had a sleepover for later that day and I thought he might have tried to do it for that reason but he says no. We are confused, angry, and upset. My daughter is very angry and upset. My son is the same. This is a crisis. He says he feels sick about it and that it was an impulse and he didnt think, he just did it. I'm trying to be supportive to both of them but I'm torn. Think of the ramifications of this. I thought about a crisis center for him because of some of the things he said about himself and how he hates himself. I don't think he's a real danger to himself at this moment. With the holidays though it's hard to get immeadiate treatment or counseling. He insists this is the first time he's done it, but i'm all over the place with horrible thoughts. He talked to dad (who took him to work that day, we kept him from school) and said that he's having sexual urges and he's and curious. We have known that he's taking long showers for a reason and tried to give him his space.
Both of my children have gone through what i call "early puberty". My daughter at 13 truly has the body of a much older girl. I'm just really at a loss over this. any ideas or advice would be so helpful. I feel like this is so abnormal and i'm very worried for him and my daughter.
