My sister in law had a baby recently, her third and we were talking last night and she was telling me how she is yet to feel that overwhelming love feeling, or feeling like she has 100% bonded with the baby. She didn't with her older girls either, but she was under the impression that as she is much older now (11 year age gap) she would be more 'mature' and it would come on earlier.
I never really admitted it to anyone at the time, but I remember when I was pregnant with Dita I went to the pre-natal class and the midwife was talking about that overwhelming love feeling you get, usually after the placenta comes out and your body releases all the hormones. I didn't get that with my four of my kids, I think I had it with Sunny, but I am not sure if it was love or relief because it was a complicated birth and she was okay. But I felt, especially with my first, like I was this huge failure of a mother straight off the bat because yes, I loved her, the way you kind of have to love family, I didn't get that "Oh my goodness this is my child I will never let anything happen to them and they are my whole world" feeling until many many months later.
So this morning I was talking to one of the Mums at school drop-off who I have become pretty good friends with and said "Hey, just out of curiosity, -explains topic- how did that work for you?" and she said "I think it's crap, I didn't feel that, I don't know anyone who did, I thought I had PND half an hour after giving birth because I didn't feel this gush of emotion".
So it's playing on my mind and I'm really curious about this, who felt that emotional 'rush'? Because I am seriously starting to class this one with the 'orgasmic birth' theory being "It's in people's heads and not quite happening".
I never really admitted it to anyone at the time, but I remember when I was pregnant with Dita I went to the pre-natal class and the midwife was talking about that overwhelming love feeling you get, usually after the placenta comes out and your body releases all the hormones. I didn't get that with my four of my kids, I think I had it with Sunny, but I am not sure if it was love or relief because it was a complicated birth and she was okay. But I felt, especially with my first, like I was this huge failure of a mother straight off the bat because yes, I loved her, the way you kind of have to love family, I didn't get that "Oh my goodness this is my child I will never let anything happen to them and they are my whole world" feeling until many many months later.
So this morning I was talking to one of the Mums at school drop-off who I have become pretty good friends with and said "Hey, just out of curiosity, -explains topic- how did that work for you?" and she said "I think it's crap, I didn't feel that, I don't know anyone who did, I thought I had PND half an hour after giving birth because I didn't feel this gush of emotion".
So it's playing on my mind and I'm really curious about this, who felt that emotional 'rush'? Because I am seriously starting to class this one with the 'orgasmic birth' theory being "It's in people's heads and not quite happening".