Hi all. New member here and registered just to ask the below. I appreciate the long read and help.
I am looking for help and opinions of some people on this forum as there was a recent incident that has affected and divided my wife and I pertaining to our daughter. I am going to present the most factual events of this and I would like you to weigh in if you deem this appropriate, inappropriate, harmful, etc.
Situation:
My daughter just turned 4 years old. We are not that naked of a household although before bath time she will run around to show mommy her naked booty or what have you but generally at least always have underwear on. She was recently at my biological parents house and they live near the beach so they went there every day. When they got home, being a 4 year old she was completely covered in sand so they would hose her off outside, then bring her inside the house to do a shower and get the rest of the sand off. They would then let her be naked for a longer period of time. This was more than just going to the room after the bath to get dressed, she would be upstairs, sit in a chair and at one point she was crawling on my fathers back, completely in the nude. She generally seemed to be having a good time, my parents took pictures to show me but they were not sharing with anyone other than my wife and I.
I am an only child and a male so my parents have never had a daughter. I showed my wife the pictures and I thought nothing of it, just thought of a 4 year old being naked. My wife however was extremely perturbed, disgusted, and thought it was extremely inappropriate. That day when they dropped her off I told them to stop having her be so naked and she needs to get dressed at least in underwear right after.
Now moving forward my wife does not want to have my daughter stay at my parents house ever again. These are the facts and I would like you to weigh in based on what you think. I am under reacting, should this be treated more seriously, etc.
I am looking for help and opinions of some people on this forum as there was a recent incident that has affected and divided my wife and I pertaining to our daughter. I am going to present the most factual events of this and I would like you to weigh in if you deem this appropriate, inappropriate, harmful, etc.
Situation:
My daughter just turned 4 years old. We are not that naked of a household although before bath time she will run around to show mommy her naked booty or what have you but generally at least always have underwear on. She was recently at my biological parents house and they live near the beach so they went there every day. When they got home, being a 4 year old she was completely covered in sand so they would hose her off outside, then bring her inside the house to do a shower and get the rest of the sand off. They would then let her be naked for a longer period of time. This was more than just going to the room after the bath to get dressed, she would be upstairs, sit in a chair and at one point she was crawling on my fathers back, completely in the nude. She generally seemed to be having a good time, my parents took pictures to show me but they were not sharing with anyone other than my wife and I.
I am an only child and a male so my parents have never had a daughter. I showed my wife the pictures and I thought nothing of it, just thought of a 4 year old being naked. My wife however was extremely perturbed, disgusted, and thought it was extremely inappropriate. That day when they dropped her off I told them to stop having her be so naked and she needs to get dressed at least in underwear right after.
Now moving forward my wife does not want to have my daughter stay at my parents house ever again. These are the facts and I would like you to weigh in based on what you think. I am under reacting, should this be treated more seriously, etc.