Hello,
My husband & I have become increasingly concerned about my daughter, who is a twin (she has a brother). Over the last 2 yrs or so, she has had problems playing with others, mostly girls. She plays better with boys. But with girls, everytime she plays, it seems to go the same way: they start playing fine for a while, then she wants them to do what she wants, they don't, they start playing with my son which really makes her upset and usually hides in the house in her room or watching TV. Its sad because I think she just stays inside and hides from her friends sometimes because it always ends up bad...she seems to be becoming more isolated. She falls apart when things don't go her way...more than what I would say is typical. It doesn't help that her twin brother is very charming and gets along well all the time with almost anyone. She is an extremely sensitive child and also craves attention...even when we give her way more than her brother...she would be a great only child. On the other hand, she is a real pleaser, and sweet and kind...but tough too. She doesn't seem to have the coping skills to deal with these issues, and no amount of subtle advice I have given is helping. I don't know how to help her. Also lately she has been very worried about death, that one of us will die or she will die. Every night she cries and worries. It just seems like too many worries for such a little girl. We have a stable, active family life, and she does well in school. I keep thinking that the twin thing may be more of the problem than I realize. My husband thought that maybe we should try a child phycologist even its just to help us with our parenting of her. Any ideas?
My husband & I have become increasingly concerned about my daughter, who is a twin (she has a brother). Over the last 2 yrs or so, she has had problems playing with others, mostly girls. She plays better with boys. But with girls, everytime she plays, it seems to go the same way: they start playing fine for a while, then she wants them to do what she wants, they don't, they start playing with my son which really makes her upset and usually hides in the house in her room or watching TV. Its sad because I think she just stays inside and hides from her friends sometimes because it always ends up bad...she seems to be becoming more isolated. She falls apart when things don't go her way...more than what I would say is typical. It doesn't help that her twin brother is very charming and gets along well all the time with almost anyone. She is an extremely sensitive child and also craves attention...even when we give her way more than her brother...she would be a great only child. On the other hand, she is a real pleaser, and sweet and kind...but tough too. She doesn't seem to have the coping skills to deal with these issues, and no amount of subtle advice I have given is helping. I don't know how to help her. Also lately she has been very worried about death, that one of us will die or she will die. Every night she cries and worries. It just seems like too many worries for such a little girl. We have a stable, active family life, and she does well in school. I keep thinking that the twin thing may be more of the problem than I realize. My husband thought that maybe we should try a child phycologist even its just to help us with our parenting of her. Any ideas?