pancras said:
This is not what I did. I did not tell the kid to try broccoli or any other food. I did not tell the kid that brocolli or any other food was good. I did not say one word to the kid about broccoli before he started eating brocolli. What I did was have a conversation about the brocoli with <I>other people at the table who were eating broccoli</I>. When the kid stated eating broccoli, the dad told me he did not want the kid to eat all of the serving that he had put on his plate.
I guess everyone misunderstood what I was talking about when I said that I encouraged the kid to eat broccoli.
Okay, well you specifically said "I did have a parent tell me to stop encouraging his kid to eat the broccoli on the kid's plate", so if you did nothing to the kid then what were you told to stop doing exactly? That statement to me says that you were saying something directly to the kid about eating his broccoli (or in some other roundabout way, whatever, either way you were interacting with the kid over broccoli). Can you explain what you were told to stop doing if you weren't "encouraging" the kid like you told us you were?
Anyway, you were talking to everyone else at the table about them eating their broccoli? lol See, to me that is an awkward scene being caused on my child's behalf that is probably making everyone feel weird. Like I said, the parents probably weren't fond of all the unnecessary attention, and just wanted to eat in peace. You were making a strange scene and involving the whole table based around this kid eating. I mean, who does that? Centers an entire dinner gathering around a child eating his vegetables? Who cares? It was a family dinner, not a child psychology session.
And are you really trying to tell me that this person looked at his child and specifically told him not to eat the rest of his broccoli? lol That's what you are saying this parent did?? He said "do not eat your broccoli"?
GrandpaLarry - They may not be the easiest options, but they are the only good ones. Confronting her about the way you think she should parent is not going to work, most likely she will just get mad and push you away and nothing will change anyway. It is not worth it. If the kids are being harmed, call CPS. If not, then suggest and make examples. Otherwise it really isn't your business or your responsibility. You had your chance to raise your children, and now it's her turn to raise hers.
Edited to add: SD - My oldest is the EXACT same way, if you say anything that makes him think you WANT him to eat a certain food, he's automatically out lol. I have to answer the same way or it's all over "it's broccoli". haha