<r><COLOR color="black"><s></s>The fact that my daughter Taylor bought five bikinis is the easy part to explain about this, she has of late become very clothing orientated and will spend virtually every bit of money she gets buying clothing.<e></e></FONT><e>[/SIZE]</SIZE></e></SIZE><e>[/B]</e></B><e>[/COLOR]</e></COLOR><br/>
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<COLOR color="black"><s></s>This is just one of the issues I have to deal with when I go clothing shopping with her, as she will almost without a doubt try and get more than we went in for originally, another major one is trying to keep her looking like a 14 yr-old is very difficult as she is well developed and looks 2 or 3 years older than she actually is, added to this fact is that she has to wear adult clothing. I try my best with her to be fair to a certain extent and let her be “Fashionable”, within the standards I have, Taylor on the other hand tries hard to push the boundaries, I understand this is because she is a teenager and that is just fairly normal, we have had a few disagreements, but I most of the time do stick to my guns with her on this.<e></e></FONT><e>[/SIZE]</SIZE></e></SIZE><e>[/B]</e></B><e>[/COLOR]</e></COLOR><br/>
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<COLOR color="black"><s></s>The bikini issue being one of these, as I said at the very beginning, I am not anti her having a bikini, and Taylor had at this point tried to push for one of the type that she then went and bought several of behind my back, I had also told her “NO” and explained why this was the case and then we had got around to actually buying her a bikini that we both agreed on, although even here we still disagreed as she wanted more than one and I had to stick to my guns of one bikini and one one-piece swimsuit. <e></e></FONT><e>[/SIZE]</SIZE></e></SIZE><e>[/B]</e></B><e>[/COLOR]</e></COLOR><br/>
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<FONT font="Times New Roman"><s></s>As you noticed from the photo’s one of the first things that are really noticeable about my daughter Taylor are her breasts and she already gets lots of attention from boys because of them, so the last thing I want to have happen is for her to get even more. This is my number one reason as to why I do not want her to wear the bikinis she bought, as the two triangles allow way too much to be on show, it was also the reason why I did not permit this style originally. I can see all sorts of horrors here as none of the bikinis are exactly secure only being held in place by small bows, I can see the strings being pulled loose and her ending up topless or completely naked. <e></SIZE></e></SIZE><e>[/FONT]</e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Times New Roman"><s></s>I am personally also not overly keen on my mothers suggestion of making her cut the bikinis up or even of me doing so in front of her as like you say this will only in all events cause lots of other problems, which I have no desire to do.<e></SIZE></e></SIZE><e>[/FONT]</e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Times New Roman"><s></s>I am equally not keen on the controlled use idea that my husband came up with for them as firstly I would have to be the one who did the controlling and would have to decide when and if the bikinis can be worn in the process having to deal with Taylor if I said no to her and I also feel that this to a certain extent would be sending the wrong type of message to her as well. <e></SIZE></e></SIZE><e>[/FONT]</e></FONT><br/>
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<SIZE size="3"><s><SIZE size="125"></s><FONT font="Times New Roman"><s></s>What I somehow have to do is to get the message across though that I said NO to this type of bikini and it meant NO. But also somehow in the process I also have to get the fact that there are consequences for disobeying and being sneaky across as well. As I really think she needs to see what happened to the bikinis and what will happen again should she do so again. <e></e></FONT><e></SIZE></e></SIZE><br/>
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<FONT font="Times New Roman"><s></s>But the options for doing this are very limited and these are the only options I can think of.<e></SIZE></e></SIZE><e>[/FONT]</e></FONT><br/>
<FONT font="Times New Roman"><s></s>1. I keep the bikinis and do not permit any use.<e></SIZE></e></SIZE><e>[/FONT]</e></FONT><br/>
<FONT font="Times New Roman"><s></s>2 I bin them on rubbish day next week as the bin is put out for collection in front of her.<e></SIZE></e></SIZE><e>[/FONT]</e></FONT><br/>
<FONT font="Times New Roman"><s></s>3 Give them to my mother her grandmother in front of her to take home with her and dispose off ( I know without a doubt that my mother will first cut them before binning).<e></SIZE></e></SIZE><e>[/FONT]</e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Times New Roman"><s></s>Any thoughts and options on how to get the message across would be most helpful<e></SIZE></e></SIZE><e>[/FONT]</e></FONT></r>
