I dont know if this is the right post but anyways - here is the situation.
I'm 24 years old and still live w/ my folks...just trying to get my life together. One of my goals is to start going out on dates and being an introvert, I figured to give online dating a try. So far, it's been working out great for me because I'm actually on my 4th round of dates and it's been really great meeting new people. The problem is, my dad is giving me so much crap on this online dating. He gives me side comments such as "if you have the guts to drive all the way down for an hour just to meet a girl then why dont you have the guts to ask a girl out in person?" then he'll say stuff like "what if you land into someone who's in for your money etc etc".
Well, I'm bothered w/ his side comments. I get that he's being a dad and maybe a devil's advocate and he's trying to protect me but I dont like it for few reasons:
1. It's turning out that he doesnt trust me if he's being judgemental like that - Am I that stupid enough that I wont recognize someone who's after my money?
2. He shouldnt really worry if he thinks the values he taught me is strong, w/c I think is strong so I'm actually not worried myself dating around because it even gives me the chance to self check my values and how strong it is.
3. By him being judgemental like that and over protective - he's not really giving me the chance to grow. I told him before that I need to learn this on my own and out there. If I make mistakes, so be it - that's part of life and I'll need to learn by those mistakes.
It's coming down to me restorting to just move out so that I can get my own life. I've been trying to reach out to him because I want for both of us to make this transition of adulthood be good for both of us. The problem is, I think he's sometimes have a hard time communicating/expressing his feelings. I have the same problems sometimes but I think I'm much more aware of it than my dad so everytime we have "discussions" on things like this or heated debate, it ends up being head to head butting at each other...any advice folks? I really want my relationship w/ my dad to be strong and I'm running out of options. I've reached out to him soooo many times and I still get the same treatment from him - judgemental and overly protective.
I'm 24 years old and still live w/ my folks...just trying to get my life together. One of my goals is to start going out on dates and being an introvert, I figured to give online dating a try. So far, it's been working out great for me because I'm actually on my 4th round of dates and it's been really great meeting new people. The problem is, my dad is giving me so much crap on this online dating. He gives me side comments such as "if you have the guts to drive all the way down for an hour just to meet a girl then why dont you have the guts to ask a girl out in person?" then he'll say stuff like "what if you land into someone who's in for your money etc etc".
Well, I'm bothered w/ his side comments. I get that he's being a dad and maybe a devil's advocate and he's trying to protect me but I dont like it for few reasons:
1. It's turning out that he doesnt trust me if he's being judgemental like that - Am I that stupid enough that I wont recognize someone who's after my money?
2. He shouldnt really worry if he thinks the values he taught me is strong, w/c I think is strong so I'm actually not worried myself dating around because it even gives me the chance to self check my values and how strong it is.
3. By him being judgemental like that and over protective - he's not really giving me the chance to grow. I told him before that I need to learn this on my own and out there. If I make mistakes, so be it - that's part of life and I'll need to learn by those mistakes.
It's coming down to me restorting to just move out so that I can get my own life. I've been trying to reach out to him because I want for both of us to make this transition of adulthood be good for both of us. The problem is, I think he's sometimes have a hard time communicating/expressing his feelings. I have the same problems sometimes but I think I'm much more aware of it than my dad so everytime we have "discussions" on things like this or heated debate, it ends up being head to head butting at each other...any advice folks? I really want my relationship w/ my dad to be strong and I'm running out of options. I've reached out to him soooo many times and I still get the same treatment from him - judgemental and overly protective.