My fiance and I plan to get married next spring. I'll explain the situation the best that I can, but will summarize. She has a 6 year old daughter, who she had when she was in high school. The father is not in the picture, has never been and never will be (long story). She had custody of her until she turned 18 and left home. Her parents now have full custody over her. She has been in and out of her daughters life for the past 4 years moving from place to place (the whole never had a childhood because having a child). She ended up getting pregnant again, but was forced to give this child up for adoption by her abusive boyfriend at the time. There is ALOT of emotional and psychological issues because of everything. She got heavily involved in drugs and alcohol. Anywho.... We met, fell in love and she has been getting her life back together. She now moved back in with her parents and daughter. Though, her daughter has suffered emotionally and psychological as well. She was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. When my fiance lived with me, (on the east coast), her daughter lived in MN with her parents, but like I said before, now she has her life straightened out and lives back at home. Because of all of the things that happened in the past, her daughters behavior is atrocious! But, there are many things that I see that I would do differently as far as parenting. I am seeking opinions and advice on how to go about this without seeming like I'm trying to take control. Her parents adore me, and I do very well with kids. Does anyone here have experience or have had a similar situation? I just want to help her out, and be a father figure...since she has never had one.
Another issue, my fiance and her parents have different opinions on how her daughter should be raised...and at this point, her parents still have custody, but after the wedding, it's suppose to slowly transfer to full custody to us. I'm just concerned that we will have different parenting views. HELP!
Another issue, my fiance and her parents have different opinions on how her daughter should be raised...and at this point, her parents still have custody, but after the wedding, it's suppose to slowly transfer to full custody to us. I'm just concerned that we will have different parenting views. HELP!