When I was in kindergarten 40+ years ago, the boys were not at all interested in girls. It was "girl germs" or "girl cooties" all around. We girls were interested in boys as much as 5yo girls can be interested, and we even used to play catch and kiss. However, at my daughter's pre-k, the boys are telling girls, "You are my girlfriend" and twice my daughter has confided that so-and-so has tried to kiss her and "it's gross."
I'm not offended that these little boys have tried to kiss my child, but I do now understand why this is a problem and how we might have come to the ridiculous level of "zero tolerance" for these things as we have in schools in America, witnessed by the crazy stories of 5yos being suspended for just this. I have to teach my daughter her own "ground rules" for how she will be treated and what she should accept from boys starting as young as possible. If I don't start now, the "ground rules" will be mine and not hers.
It's a difficult balance as well. I know that I always had a hard time with unwanted advances as an adult because I wanted to be polite at the same time I wanted them to stop. I seemed to send mixed signals as a result. I want to teach my daughter to send very clear signals and to be confident in them, but I don't want the rejected child to become the laughing stock, and one of these little boys seems to have other issues that might make him the joke of the class.
Due to my childhood experience, though, I did not think I'd be facing this so soon. Have things really changed so much or was this/is this just the trend in these particular schools?
I'm not offended that these little boys have tried to kiss my child, but I do now understand why this is a problem and how we might have come to the ridiculous level of "zero tolerance" for these things as we have in schools in America, witnessed by the crazy stories of 5yos being suspended for just this. I have to teach my daughter her own "ground rules" for how she will be treated and what she should accept from boys starting as young as possible. If I don't start now, the "ground rules" will be mine and not hers.
It's a difficult balance as well. I know that I always had a hard time with unwanted advances as an adult because I wanted to be polite at the same time I wanted them to stop. I seemed to send mixed signals as a result. I want to teach my daughter to send very clear signals and to be confident in them, but I don't want the rejected child to become the laughing stock, and one of these little boys seems to have other issues that might make him the joke of the class.
Due to my childhood experience, though, I did not think I'd be facing this so soon. Have things really changed so much or was this/is this just the trend in these particular schools?