Hi there, I'm new here.
I've never had the need to visit a parenting forum before, but I'm really in need of some advice with a situation which has arisen recently. I'm scared for the safety of my family and home.
I've known my wife for around six years now, and we've been married for nearly three years.
I have two step sons, the youngest is 17 and the eldest 19 next month.
We've had trouble with my wife's youngest in the past, but that seems to have sorted itself out now. I'm now concerned about the eldest.
I borrowed his iPad not long ago, and while I was using it, an e-mail came through and a preview bar appeared at the top of the screen.
It alarmed me.
It alarmed me enough to go into his e-mails and read through. I feel bad for doing this, and I know it's an invasion of privacy and morally wrong, but like I say, it alarmed me.
It appears he has been answering adverts to meet up with people for 'adult encounters'.
And not just females, but males too.
When me and my wife were away for the night recently for my birthday, it would appear that he invited two males to our home, has given our address out to at least one other person, and has been arranging to be picked up at the end of our road and around the town where we live.
These are complete strangers.
I am scared not only for his safety, but for our home. He is giving out our address and inviting strangers into our home.
What do I do???
Do I have a word with him on his own, admitting that I have been through his private e-mails?
Do I tell my wife and again, admit to privacy invasion?
Do I call a family meeting and bring it out into the open?
None of this comes easy to me. It scares me that I will have to talk this over and am shaking just thinking about it. I don't have many parenting skills, and I've found it very hard having two step sons of early adult age. I am a quiet person who finds confrontation very difficult, but I know something has to be done about this.
We cannot now make any plans which involve the house being left in the hands of my wife's eldest!
I've even just considered going back on his iPad and forwarding the e-mails to my wife and blaming a 'glitch' or hacking attempt!
Any ideas or advice would be much appreciated.
Help!!
Many thanks for reading.
I've never had the need to visit a parenting forum before, but I'm really in need of some advice with a situation which has arisen recently. I'm scared for the safety of my family and home.
I've known my wife for around six years now, and we've been married for nearly three years.
I have two step sons, the youngest is 17 and the eldest 19 next month.
We've had trouble with my wife's youngest in the past, but that seems to have sorted itself out now. I'm now concerned about the eldest.
I borrowed his iPad not long ago, and while I was using it, an e-mail came through and a preview bar appeared at the top of the screen.
It alarmed me.
It alarmed me enough to go into his e-mails and read through. I feel bad for doing this, and I know it's an invasion of privacy and morally wrong, but like I say, it alarmed me.
It appears he has been answering adverts to meet up with people for 'adult encounters'.
And not just females, but males too.
When me and my wife were away for the night recently for my birthday, it would appear that he invited two males to our home, has given our address out to at least one other person, and has been arranging to be picked up at the end of our road and around the town where we live.
These are complete strangers.
I am scared not only for his safety, but for our home. He is giving out our address and inviting strangers into our home.
What do I do???
Do I have a word with him on his own, admitting that I have been through his private e-mails?
Do I tell my wife and again, admit to privacy invasion?
Do I call a family meeting and bring it out into the open?
None of this comes easy to me. It scares me that I will have to talk this over and am shaking just thinking about it. I don't have many parenting skills, and I've found it very hard having two step sons of early adult age. I am a quiet person who finds confrontation very difficult, but I know something has to be done about this.
We cannot now make any plans which involve the house being left in the hands of my wife's eldest!
I've even just considered going back on his iPad and forwarding the e-mails to my wife and blaming a 'glitch' or hacking attempt!
Any ideas or advice would be much appreciated.
Help!!
Many thanks for reading.