Hi ��
So I am having a few issues with my mother in law, I always struggle with her generally but recently it is consuming Me and I really feel like I will snap and say something I regret which I don't want to do, and also I don't want it to affect my relationship with my partner who always sticks up for his mum (of course)
The recent issues have started because I stupidly agreed to go away on hol for my mums 50th which means leaving my two kids with dad for 4 days one is nearly 3 the other 7 months. I really trust dad and think they will have a great time however now his mum has suggested that they all go away to a holiday park together without me while I'm away on holiday and to be honest it has really upset me I feel like I'm purposely being left out and also my youngest has never been away and I will be missing his first holiday. Its hard enough to leave them and in my mind I was thinking oh its okay they will just be at home and be fine. So basically I made some excuses and have told my partner we have to go when I'm there too. I don't want them going without me. Am I being totally unreasonable?
I always feel there isa tussle between me and his mum and we are always going back and forth because she is over involved with my oldest child. She always try's to discipline him even when she is a guest in our own home she will say to him oh don't do that. And oh u can have this if u do this etc. I am a very relaxed mum and that is my parenting style I like to do things mt own way and I don't see why she keeps trying to take control of discipline I don't see why she doesn't want to just play with him and have fun. Another example is potty training she keeps coming round and saying oh we need to get him potty trained bla bla when I have repeatedly told her that the health visitor advised me he will do it in his own time and I don't want to pressure him. It should be my decision not hers surely. I don't know why she keeps mentioning it.
What really has tipped me over the edge is a shopping trip we went on. My child was really messing around and being naughty and In the end I had enough and said to him okay your not getting anything now and I put what I had in my hands back. Nanny walked over to me and said (after hearing what I Said to my child) I'm just going to get him what you just put back. So I said no I've told him he's not having it now. (quite crossly) then she said oh okay with an attitude. To my horror when we got home my son took out of the bag two tshirts from the shop where this all happened and said look mummy new tshirts new presents which she had secretly bought and hidden in my bag!!!!!
I'm at boiling point I don't know what to do this is one of many incidents where I feel undermined by her, please any advise would be much appreciated!
Mummabear92
So I am having a few issues with my mother in law, I always struggle with her generally but recently it is consuming Me and I really feel like I will snap and say something I regret which I don't want to do, and also I don't want it to affect my relationship with my partner who always sticks up for his mum (of course)
The recent issues have started because I stupidly agreed to go away on hol for my mums 50th which means leaving my two kids with dad for 4 days one is nearly 3 the other 7 months. I really trust dad and think they will have a great time however now his mum has suggested that they all go away to a holiday park together without me while I'm away on holiday and to be honest it has really upset me I feel like I'm purposely being left out and also my youngest has never been away and I will be missing his first holiday. Its hard enough to leave them and in my mind I was thinking oh its okay they will just be at home and be fine. So basically I made some excuses and have told my partner we have to go when I'm there too. I don't want them going without me. Am I being totally unreasonable?
I always feel there isa tussle between me and his mum and we are always going back and forth because she is over involved with my oldest child. She always try's to discipline him even when she is a guest in our own home she will say to him oh don't do that. And oh u can have this if u do this etc. I am a very relaxed mum and that is my parenting style I like to do things mt own way and I don't see why she keeps trying to take control of discipline I don't see why she doesn't want to just play with him and have fun. Another example is potty training she keeps coming round and saying oh we need to get him potty trained bla bla when I have repeatedly told her that the health visitor advised me he will do it in his own time and I don't want to pressure him. It should be my decision not hers surely. I don't know why she keeps mentioning it.
What really has tipped me over the edge is a shopping trip we went on. My child was really messing around and being naughty and In the end I had enough and said to him okay your not getting anything now and I put what I had in my hands back. Nanny walked over to me and said (after hearing what I Said to my child) I'm just going to get him what you just put back. So I said no I've told him he's not having it now. (quite crossly) then she said oh okay with an attitude. To my horror when we got home my son took out of the bag two tshirts from the shop where this all happened and said look mummy new tshirts new presents which she had secretly bought and hidden in my bag!!!!!
I'm at boiling point I don't know what to do this is one of many incidents where I feel undermined by her, please any advise would be much appreciated!
Mummabear92