There is no situation though, I've said this several times. I don't think some of you people can even read!! I don't have any hatred towards my family. There was a situation I was cross about it I had a rant I looked at the bigger picture saw it wasn't a big deal and took advice from friends and the situation has been dealt with. I've said so many times I don't need any advice on potty training yet I'm still receiving comments about it. Actually my original post was all about ways in which I feel my mol over rides me on things and ignores what I say and does her own thing. And a separate issue which I have since looked at as being a control issue and have found a simple solution for. Never my distrust or hatred, I think when some of you read things you make assumptions. I've tried to make things as clear as possible. For example where have you seen that hr is my ex. We are still happily together. To worry about leaving your kids with anyone when you are the main care giver os perfectly normal, in fact all the issues I've had are perfectly normal. And not a result of being stubborn. All I wanted was some advice on how to deal with my mil I really have tried to make that as clear as possible, some people have given some good advice and others just seem to totally ignore what I'm saying and not even provide any type of helpful solution to the problem at hand. Next time I wont use this forum if o have an issue I will use other ones that I have used in the past who give much better advice and seem more able to understand