I will just give the short of it for now... My ex is wanting to move to the states, he has for a long time, but now I think he really is making an effort to make it happen within the next 6-12 months. He wants to take our son. I DO NOT want this to happen for many many reasons. The number one reason is that I do not think it would be good for him to be raised by his father alone. I won't go into the details, but this is the opinion that many others in our 'circle' share with me.
I don't really want to tackle this whole mountain at once, so I need to start at the start. What I need help with right now is what to say to my ex about what he has done so far with putting our son in the middle of this. He has spent a great deal of time 'wowing' him with the things his money can buy and availability of 'stuff' in the states.
Over the summer, they were both in the states doing lots of fun stuff, and unbeknownst to me, discussing how our son would be going to school in FL for 6th grade. I do not know any details of what they talked about. All I know is that our son came back home saying he was going to be in the states for 6th grade. My ex never talked to me about it AT ALL.
Ok, so, I now need to tell my ex that what he has done is very very wrong. But I need to be able to try and get through to him. Can you guys help? Just telling him that he is wrong to put our son in the middle of this discussion wont do much I'm afraid. My ex is quite possibly the most selfish self centered person I have ever encountered. He is capable of being nice, but only if it aligns with his own wants.
I am totally freaking out here. My son brought it up last night, why I wont let him go to FL, and it didn't turn out so good. He was hysterical and said that his life is ruined if I don't let him go. Dad did a good job at making me the bad guy before I even knew what the hell was going on. Dad has been away almost a month now and will be back Friday. I need to talk to him about this as soon as he gets back.
What can I say to him to get it through his head that what he has said and done putting our son in the middle is just wrong wrong wrong?
I don't really want to tackle this whole mountain at once, so I need to start at the start. What I need help with right now is what to say to my ex about what he has done so far with putting our son in the middle of this. He has spent a great deal of time 'wowing' him with the things his money can buy and availability of 'stuff' in the states.
Over the summer, they were both in the states doing lots of fun stuff, and unbeknownst to me, discussing how our son would be going to school in FL for 6th grade. I do not know any details of what they talked about. All I know is that our son came back home saying he was going to be in the states for 6th grade. My ex never talked to me about it AT ALL.
Ok, so, I now need to tell my ex that what he has done is very very wrong. But I need to be able to try and get through to him. Can you guys help? Just telling him that he is wrong to put our son in the middle of this discussion wont do much I'm afraid. My ex is quite possibly the most selfish self centered person I have ever encountered. He is capable of being nice, but only if it aligns with his own wants.
I am totally freaking out here. My son brought it up last night, why I wont let him go to FL, and it didn't turn out so good. He was hysterical and said that his life is ruined if I don't let him go. Dad did a good job at making me the bad guy before I even knew what the hell was going on. Dad has been away almost a month now and will be back Friday. I need to talk to him about this as soon as he gets back.
What can I say to him to get it through his head that what he has said and done putting our son in the middle is just wrong wrong wrong?