Right now I am 30 weeks. I took a risk by not using bc and became pregnant. In the beginning my bf wanted me to get an abortion which I wasn't comfortable with that, and as fate turned out was further along than we thought which ruled out taking the abortion pill in the first place. I felt for a while I wanted to have kids, but since being pregnant have come close to self harm when arguing with my partner. Lately things have been good, and my bf talks to my belly and tells the baby I love you even though originally he wasn't ready to be a dad. My aunt voluntarily threw me a baby shower, and I pretend to seem okay with the baby but I'm scared to death. I'm trying to save up money for a nanny. I don't feel I can handle a newborn, and that it would ruin my Zen among other things. I just have always wanted my own rather than to adopt an older kid. I get paranoid my mom or aunt could see my post here. But even at the store if I see a baby I look away and feel panicky. My bf has told me in the past he doesn't want to give them up, once they've been born. I really don't either, but I don't feel I can handle 24 /7 care. Are there any alternatives besides live in nannies or having to let them be adopted? I feel when they are a bit older 1 1/2 to 2 ish that wouldn't be something I couldn't handle. I just feel really bad and that I can't talk to anyone about how I feel.