I have an 18yo daughter from a previous relationship. A little over 4 years ago, she moved in with her dad on a full-time basis. Last year, things went south and she decided she wanted to move back here.
She's been in my house for 2 months full-time. She is a senior in high school. Her father has made no attempt to contact her or see her since she left his house. She has, however, gone to his house for visit once...all through communication with his wife.
I feel as though my daughter is lost. She has no drive or ambition when it comes to her future. We've offered to help her save money for a car, but she has yet to take the responsibility to save money from her job.
She treats our house like it's a hotel. She spends most of her time in her room, on the computer, texting or watching TV. Very rarely does she spend time with us as a family. She doesn't offer to help with the household chores. She doesn't spend any time with her two younger half siblings...and she often uses an irritated tone when speaking to them.
Two weeks ago, my husband tried to have a talk with her which ended in an argument with her disrespecting him in many ways. They aren't talking now and I'm not sure what to do. For a while there, both of them felt as though I was on the other's side which left a lot of tension in the house.
Last night, I tried to have a conversation with my daughter, but she began to talk disrespectful to me and the conversation didn't go so well.
I guess I need help in figuring out the best course of action to help my daughter see that we want to help her and that we're here for her...but she needs to show respect and stop acting as though she is a tenant in our home.
She says she wants to be treated like an adult, but she doesn't act like one. We've given her ample opportunity to prove to us that she deserves to be treated as such, but she keeps disappointing us.
Are we expecting too much? Please, any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.
She's been in my house for 2 months full-time. She is a senior in high school. Her father has made no attempt to contact her or see her since she left his house. She has, however, gone to his house for visit once...all through communication with his wife.
I feel as though my daughter is lost. She has no drive or ambition when it comes to her future. We've offered to help her save money for a car, but she has yet to take the responsibility to save money from her job.
She treats our house like it's a hotel. She spends most of her time in her room, on the computer, texting or watching TV. Very rarely does she spend time with us as a family. She doesn't offer to help with the household chores. She doesn't spend any time with her two younger half siblings...and she often uses an irritated tone when speaking to them.
Two weeks ago, my husband tried to have a talk with her which ended in an argument with her disrespecting him in many ways. They aren't talking now and I'm not sure what to do. For a while there, both of them felt as though I was on the other's side which left a lot of tension in the house.
Last night, I tried to have a conversation with my daughter, but she began to talk disrespectful to me and the conversation didn't go so well.
I guess I need help in figuring out the best course of action to help my daughter see that we want to help her and that we're here for her...but she needs to show respect and stop acting as though she is a tenant in our home.
She says she wants to be treated like an adult, but she doesn't act like one. We've given her ample opportunity to prove to us that she deserves to be treated as such, but she keeps disappointing us.
Are we expecting too much? Please, any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.
