Hi,
To start, please forgive me if I write too much. I don't know how to create the full picture in short paragraph.
I have a 10 year old daughter (no siblings). Recently, she started to lie about stuff that she doesn't want to do IF I force her to do them. Examples:
Brushing the teeth, brushing the hair, making the bed. Up to couple weeks ago, if I would ask her for the second time ( did you really brush???) the truth would come out. Couple weeks ago, she did hide a dress, and acted as she can't find it. I was very disappointed, and jumped at her about it. Told her about how much I hate when she lies and she should not come to me anymore for any favor (until the next day), and no TV or computer for the rest of the week.The next 5 days we had long conversations about the importance of telling the truth. for various reasons such as: it's the right thing to do--- if no one knows about it, GOD still does--- You will lose my trust when hiding the truth.
Last night, while I knew she was playing games and not doing her math on the computer, I played dumb and started a conversation as:
Are you doing your math? (YES ) - I'll come and checkup on your work shortly. (OK ) -Then I sat next to her. She switched the programs before I get to her. I continued..: So, what is the other tab? Game? ( no answer from her) --- why is this game open? ( she: it must have stayed open from yesterday)
After this point, I changed my questions to : Are you telling the truth? You do know that not telling the truth makes you lose our trust? I am giving you chances so you can tell me the truth.
No matter what, she didn't tell the truth. But when I showed her how disappointed I am, she said that she is sorry- one word and not in her usual super sad voice. Kind of like fi she didn't care.
What am I supposed to do? Punishment, Prize, talk. all of them are done but nothing has changed. Any advice?
Tnx
She loves playing on computers or ipod.
To start, please forgive me if I write too much. I don't know how to create the full picture in short paragraph.
I have a 10 year old daughter (no siblings). Recently, she started to lie about stuff that she doesn't want to do IF I force her to do them. Examples:
Brushing the teeth, brushing the hair, making the bed. Up to couple weeks ago, if I would ask her for the second time ( did you really brush???) the truth would come out. Couple weeks ago, she did hide a dress, and acted as she can't find it. I was very disappointed, and jumped at her about it. Told her about how much I hate when she lies and she should not come to me anymore for any favor (until the next day), and no TV or computer for the rest of the week.The next 5 days we had long conversations about the importance of telling the truth. for various reasons such as: it's the right thing to do--- if no one knows about it, GOD still does--- You will lose my trust when hiding the truth.
Last night, while I knew she was playing games and not doing her math on the computer, I played dumb and started a conversation as:
Are you doing your math? (YES ) - I'll come and checkup on your work shortly. (OK ) -Then I sat next to her. She switched the programs before I get to her. I continued..: So, what is the other tab? Game? ( no answer from her) --- why is this game open? ( she: it must have stayed open from yesterday)
After this point, I changed my questions to : Are you telling the truth? You do know that not telling the truth makes you lose our trust? I am giving you chances so you can tell me the truth.
No matter what, she didn't tell the truth. But when I showed her how disappointed I am, she said that she is sorry- one word and not in her usual super sad voice. Kind of like fi she didn't care.
What am I supposed to do? Punishment, Prize, talk. all of them are done but nothing has changed. Any advice?
Tnx
She loves playing on computers or ipod.