<t>I know my son is older than 25, but… I still cannot help it but worry about him dearly. I feel like he’s putting himself in a position that he’ll regret and not be able to reverse. <br/>
My son, Alex who is 33 came by for Christmas on one of his very rare visit. It was a great joy to see him, but many things are really bothering me. I’ve always been really worried about Alex since he was one of the most difficult kids I’ve ever raised. I have to drop out of school because I was pregnant with him. I and his father remained married until Alex was about ten. When I and his father divorced, he watched his father took his own life which was very hard for everyone. <br/>
When I and my now husband met, Alex pretty much avoid everybody but me. Alex would go out of the way to not talk to my husband or any of his children. He doesn’t even talk to his own sister or either of sons I and my husband had together. Alex would always find a way to get away from home and stay away from home as much as possible. <br/>
In high school, he was friend with mostly Bosnian people but he never really date anyone beside Bosnian girls or girls who are already out of high school which doesn’t goes too well with me or my husband. Despite of excelling at swimming, wrestling, and track, he has always been aloof toward his teammate and ignored them. <br/>
After he graduated from high school at 17, he turned down offer from Couple University to attend a commercial diving school. After he got his license, he moved back home to look for a job. Shortly afterward he says he’s going on a long trip but in reality he went to Yugoslavia to join Yugoslavia army to fight the Bosnian war. Shortly afterward, he fought in Kosovo war and that his girlfriend got kidnapped during the war and was never heard from again. He also spent years in Yugoslavia army and anti terrorist unit until 9/11 happened. He ends up go work for some contractor in Afghan and Iraq. <br/>
During whole those years he was gone, he’d probably talk to us only once every few months and we saw him only four time and we didn’t even know any of this until just a couple years ago.<br/>
To this day we’re not even sure what he’s doing with his life, but he says he has a house in Croatia and is working as a commercial diver. But he have made up thing such as saying he was working as a welder or metal sheet worker when he was actually in Yugoslavia army the whole time.<br/>
Also his relationship with my husband is still pretty much on a no talk term, he’s better with his biological sister, but as for rest of his siblings, he’s pretty much aloof and cold toward them. At one point Alex even told my husband’s son who is trying to deal with addict to pain killer and manic depression that he’s useless and should just overdose on the painkiller and save everyone the trouble of dealing with his drama. This doesn’t goes too well with anyone. <br/>
Whenever I tried to talk with him about relationship and love, I always end up become even more worried about him. From what I’ve seen, he’s either lone or go through multiple quick relationships in short period of time. He also says he doesn’t understand the issue of marriage nor why anyone would want to marry. He have even says that he absolutely refuse to have kids in the future. He says he prefer to live his life the way he wants to than being in a relationship and living a dull life. <br/>
I can’t help it but I’m getting really worried about him. It seems like he put very little value on connection between other people and is only really close to me and his biological sister.</t>
My son, Alex who is 33 came by for Christmas on one of his very rare visit. It was a great joy to see him, but many things are really bothering me. I’ve always been really worried about Alex since he was one of the most difficult kids I’ve ever raised. I have to drop out of school because I was pregnant with him. I and his father remained married until Alex was about ten. When I and his father divorced, he watched his father took his own life which was very hard for everyone. <br/>
When I and my now husband met, Alex pretty much avoid everybody but me. Alex would go out of the way to not talk to my husband or any of his children. He doesn’t even talk to his own sister or either of sons I and my husband had together. Alex would always find a way to get away from home and stay away from home as much as possible. <br/>
In high school, he was friend with mostly Bosnian people but he never really date anyone beside Bosnian girls or girls who are already out of high school which doesn’t goes too well with me or my husband. Despite of excelling at swimming, wrestling, and track, he has always been aloof toward his teammate and ignored them. <br/>
After he graduated from high school at 17, he turned down offer from Couple University to attend a commercial diving school. After he got his license, he moved back home to look for a job. Shortly afterward he says he’s going on a long trip but in reality he went to Yugoslavia to join Yugoslavia army to fight the Bosnian war. Shortly afterward, he fought in Kosovo war and that his girlfriend got kidnapped during the war and was never heard from again. He also spent years in Yugoslavia army and anti terrorist unit until 9/11 happened. He ends up go work for some contractor in Afghan and Iraq. <br/>
During whole those years he was gone, he’d probably talk to us only once every few months and we saw him only four time and we didn’t even know any of this until just a couple years ago.<br/>
To this day we’re not even sure what he’s doing with his life, but he says he has a house in Croatia and is working as a commercial diver. But he have made up thing such as saying he was working as a welder or metal sheet worker when he was actually in Yugoslavia army the whole time.<br/>
Also his relationship with my husband is still pretty much on a no talk term, he’s better with his biological sister, but as for rest of his siblings, he’s pretty much aloof and cold toward them. At one point Alex even told my husband’s son who is trying to deal with addict to pain killer and manic depression that he’s useless and should just overdose on the painkiller and save everyone the trouble of dealing with his drama. This doesn’t goes too well with anyone. <br/>
Whenever I tried to talk with him about relationship and love, I always end up become even more worried about him. From what I’ve seen, he’s either lone or go through multiple quick relationships in short period of time. He also says he doesn’t understand the issue of marriage nor why anyone would want to marry. He have even says that he absolutely refuse to have kids in the future. He says he prefer to live his life the way he wants to than being in a relationship and living a dull life. <br/>
I can’t help it but I’m getting really worried about him. It seems like he put very little value on connection between other people and is only really close to me and his biological sister.</t>
