So a lot of adult children are moving back home during the pandemic and I’m starting consider the same even though I told myself I’d never do it.
I’m getting financially railed by all this and it’s miserable, I also just went through a separation, I ended an almost 10 year relationship right before the pandemic and all the shutdowns started, like I started hearing rumors of shut downs 2 weeks after I broke up with him.
He lost his job early on during everything, about a month after I moved out and told him to leave and he’s currently living in the house I own and yes, he’s paying rent/utilities, while he gets back on his feet.
I’m currently have roommates I’m also co-workers with. It’s great but it’s financially draining especially when I have a house already and shouldn’t even have these expenses.
I’ve given him a timeframe to get out and he’s to keep paying until he does but once he’s out I don’t plan on moving back in, the house is currently almost 2 hours from work which is too far and it’s old and in need of repair. My friends and I plan on doing some light work to it and then I’m selling it.
I want to approach my mom at Christmas this weekend about me coming back to stay temporarily while I get him moved out, the house fixed up and then sold.
I’d like to take the money from the sale of the house and get a place in the town I live in now. Close enough to visit them occasionally and close enough my drive to work in the morning doesn’t make me hate life.
Growing up things were difficult between me and my mom and I’d love to spend more time with her and my brother during this transitional phase in my life but at the same time I don’t want to run into some of the same issues we had before.
I’m 31 so I’m hoping there wouldn’t be any anymore but anytime we spend more than two days together she starts talking to me like I’m a child again and her demeanor changes.
I really kinda need this break in my life tho so I can fully get back onto my feet, I have my dream job, amazing friends and life is generally going on the right path and I want to keep it that way. I don’t want to go under and end up losing all my progress.
How do I approach her about this?
How can I politely let her know that I want to be treated as an equal?
And I guess I won’t call them house rules but house expectations for someone’s who in their 30’s?
I would hope things would function a lot like they do with me and my current roommates. Pick up after yourself, don’t be loud late at night, respect others property.
Any advice would be great thanks!
I’m getting financially railed by all this and it’s miserable, I also just went through a separation, I ended an almost 10 year relationship right before the pandemic and all the shutdowns started, like I started hearing rumors of shut downs 2 weeks after I broke up with him.
He lost his job early on during everything, about a month after I moved out and told him to leave and he’s currently living in the house I own and yes, he’s paying rent/utilities, while he gets back on his feet.
I’m currently have roommates I’m also co-workers with. It’s great but it’s financially draining especially when I have a house already and shouldn’t even have these expenses.
I’ve given him a timeframe to get out and he’s to keep paying until he does but once he’s out I don’t plan on moving back in, the house is currently almost 2 hours from work which is too far and it’s old and in need of repair. My friends and I plan on doing some light work to it and then I’m selling it.
I want to approach my mom at Christmas this weekend about me coming back to stay temporarily while I get him moved out, the house fixed up and then sold.
I’d like to take the money from the sale of the house and get a place in the town I live in now. Close enough to visit them occasionally and close enough my drive to work in the morning doesn’t make me hate life.
Growing up things were difficult between me and my mom and I’d love to spend more time with her and my brother during this transitional phase in my life but at the same time I don’t want to run into some of the same issues we had before.
I’m 31 so I’m hoping there wouldn’t be any anymore but anytime we spend more than two days together she starts talking to me like I’m a child again and her demeanor changes.
I really kinda need this break in my life tho so I can fully get back onto my feet, I have my dream job, amazing friends and life is generally going on the right path and I want to keep it that way. I don’t want to go under and end up losing all my progress.
How do I approach her about this?
How can I politely let her know that I want to be treated as an equal?
And I guess I won’t call them house rules but house expectations for someone’s who in their 30’s?
I would hope things would function a lot like they do with me and my current roommates. Pick up after yourself, don’t be loud late at night, respect others property.
Any advice would be great thanks!
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