Hi Kali,
I agree with most of the suggestions that you received and I think you're children are just learning to adapt to the new family environment.
There is no need for you to purchase books you can check out my site (it's free!) DisciplineandChildren.com for helpful tips in your role as the partner in a reconstituted family. You'll discover and learn:
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<LI>- Teaching active listening to children</LI>
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- 8 steps to get your child to listen to you</LI>
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- Communication with children & much more!</LI>
</LIST>Your priority for now is spending quality time with the children. This is fundamental and the key to establishing a bond with them. When children feel comfortable, they open up and you'll soon see the attention problems fade away.
Good Luck !
