Hi Everyone,
I am not a parent but I have a serious issue that I need help with. I have a friend who recently found out that his girlfriend is pregnant. His girlfriend is about 2 months along. They plan to carry the child to term and raise the child together. Besides being pretty young (23 and 26) and having unstable and immature personalities, they are both marijuana dealers who love to drink and smoke dope. I am of the understanding that the young woman in this situation smokes pot and cigarettes daily, and I heard tonight that she was having a few glasses of wine. My friend (the guy) s very nonchalant about all of this. He realizes to some degree the level of responsibility he is about to undertake, but I cannot believe that he allows her to drink and use drugs while pregnant. He doesn't seem to care at all.
His girlfriend is a college educated, reasonably intelligent individual, but she seems so mentally out of whack that she shouldn't have anything to do with children. My dilemma is that I feel like I should say something about the drug and alcohol use. It is one thing to be a bit immature and unprepared to be parents, but to be pot dealers with a hippy-like lifestyle raising a kid, and to have the mother smoking and drinking and using pot while pregnant is reprehensible. I don't think she is getting really drunk necessarily, but even a little bit of alcohol is a bad idea when pregnant. Should I say something to them, or at least to my buddy? He is a very passive guy and I don't think he'd stand up to her about this if he wanted to. I almost always stay out of other people's business, but this is just eating at me. I don't know if I could sleep anymore if their kid turned out FAS or worse. It seems in our society that telling someone what to do or not to do with regards to their children is taboo no matter what it is, but I don't agree with it, and this is a pretty bad situation. Please give advice if you can.
I am not a parent but I have a serious issue that I need help with. I have a friend who recently found out that his girlfriend is pregnant. His girlfriend is about 2 months along. They plan to carry the child to term and raise the child together. Besides being pretty young (23 and 26) and having unstable and immature personalities, they are both marijuana dealers who love to drink and smoke dope. I am of the understanding that the young woman in this situation smokes pot and cigarettes daily, and I heard tonight that she was having a few glasses of wine. My friend (the guy) s very nonchalant about all of this. He realizes to some degree the level of responsibility he is about to undertake, but I cannot believe that he allows her to drink and use drugs while pregnant. He doesn't seem to care at all.
His girlfriend is a college educated, reasonably intelligent individual, but she seems so mentally out of whack that she shouldn't have anything to do with children. My dilemma is that I feel like I should say something about the drug and alcohol use. It is one thing to be a bit immature and unprepared to be parents, but to be pot dealers with a hippy-like lifestyle raising a kid, and to have the mother smoking and drinking and using pot while pregnant is reprehensible. I don't think she is getting really drunk necessarily, but even a little bit of alcohol is a bad idea when pregnant. Should I say something to them, or at least to my buddy? He is a very passive guy and I don't think he'd stand up to her about this if he wanted to. I almost always stay out of other people's business, but this is just eating at me. I don't know if I could sleep anymore if their kid turned out FAS or worse. It seems in our society that telling someone what to do or not to do with regards to their children is taboo no matter what it is, but I don't agree with it, and this is a pretty bad situation. Please give advice if you can.