This is something that I've been thinking about for a long time, and something I will have to make my mind up about sooner rather than later, I think.
I concerns telling my daughter about my history. At this stage, she doesn't know that I've been anything other than her rather boring daddy. I can't count on her never finding out - since it really isn't a secret. My brother's kids have known all their lives that I have a history with substance abuse. There wasn't much chance of hiding it, especially from the eldest, since I only got clean after he was born. My brother and his wife have often used my history as a lesson in why exactly they should stay away from drugs.
My daughter is, thus far, blissfully unaware. Only yesterday, we went over the "you only take medicine if you really are sick, because if you're not sick taking medicine is bad for you" lesson again. Somewhere in there is an opportunity to tell her, but I just don't know how...
Something in me thinks she's too young, but then, as I've said - my brother's kids always knew. So what is "too young" really? I can't help but think that the longer I postpone it, the harder it will be.
What I do know, is that I don't want her to find out from someone else. Especially the fact that my addiction has also earned me a criminal record a few months of jail time.
I don't really know how to formulate the question in here. I need advice. I don't like keeping secrets from my daughter. I just don't know how to admit to that little girl who thinks I can do no wrong, that I can, and have, really screwed up badly in the past...
I concerns telling my daughter about my history. At this stage, she doesn't know that I've been anything other than her rather boring daddy. I can't count on her never finding out - since it really isn't a secret. My brother's kids have known all their lives that I have a history with substance abuse. There wasn't much chance of hiding it, especially from the eldest, since I only got clean after he was born. My brother and his wife have often used my history as a lesson in why exactly they should stay away from drugs.
My daughter is, thus far, blissfully unaware. Only yesterday, we went over the "you only take medicine if you really are sick, because if you're not sick taking medicine is bad for you" lesson again. Somewhere in there is an opportunity to tell her, but I just don't know how...
Something in me thinks she's too young, but then, as I've said - my brother's kids always knew. So what is "too young" really? I can't help but think that the longer I postpone it, the harder it will be.
What I do know, is that I don't want her to find out from someone else. Especially the fact that my addiction has also earned me a criminal record a few months of jail time.
I don't really know how to formulate the question in here. I need advice. I don't like keeping secrets from my daughter. I just don't know how to admit to that little girl who thinks I can do no wrong, that I can, and have, really screwed up badly in the past...