Here's what you do. Get a journal (even if it's a spare) and write that concern down, accidentally leave it open somewhere but make it look like you did not intentionally do it and he will read it. Men do not like to hurt woman and they sometimes think we do not dwell in it. They are very matter of fact. If he said it's not cheating then that's it and it's over. But if he were to see that it really weighs heavy on your mind but you are not hounding him then he may mention it especially if you are lying in bed and he could get lucky, they tend to open up and are more vulnerable there for some reason..:Kalli Rae:. said:The only thing I would like to hear from my "husband" is "I'm sorry, I did cheat and it was stupid. I never should have ruined what we had together."
He still won't admit it, he says it wasn't cheating.
Oh well...
There is soooooooooooo something wrong with you son.FooserX said:I guess Mt. St. Lissa is done erupting...did things get better?
We actually don't live together anymore, I asked him to leave the day I found out. But I did talk to him last night for hours and although its over and we will never be together again, it was nice to talk. He admitted what he did was cheating and he apologized for it. It was really good closure.musicmom said:Here's what you do. Get a journal (even if it's a spare) and write that concern down, accidentally leave it open somewhere but make it look like you did not intentionally do it and he will read it. Men do not like to hurt woman and they sometimes think we do not dwell in it. They are very matter of fact. If he said it's not cheating then that's it and it's over. But if he were to see that it really weighs heavy on your mind but you are not hounding him then he may mention it especially if you are lying in bed and he could get lucky, they tend to open up and are more vulnerable there for some reason.
For a man to admit that or even apologize it is a huge deal to him and when you bring it up it makes him feel as if you are attacking.
I went through this with my fiance and he was very disapointed in himself but would not, could not admit it to me (until their child was born) and then he HAD to admit it. lol I didn't want just an I'm sorry, I wanted it from the heart and for him to make me feel as if I was entitled to my feelings and I wanted to be asked for my forgivness. I finally had him to it but it was five years after the fact that he truely whole heartidly said it the way I needed.
Sorry you had to endure that.
:veryconfused:yulia said:that's what my husband recently whote to me and this is pretty much what I want/ed to hear:
Yulia</SIZE>[/FONT]
I cannot give you the spring of honeymoon</SIZE>[/FONT]
the excitement in meeting the new.</SIZE>[/FONT]
the ease that comes with having no mutual worry or burden</SIZE>[/FONT]
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I stand at the end of one thousand arguments</SIZE>[/FONT]
burdens and responsibilities</SIZE>[/FONT]
Giving life to together to our children and family.</SIZE>[/FONT]
I have seen your best but also your worst,</SIZE>[/FONT]
and so I have earned the right to declare:</SIZE>[/FONT]
I want to give you fifteen thousand summer days.</SIZE>[/FONT]
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