i thought this website was to help parents with situations, not judge them or offend there parenting skills.. i dont come to YOUR house and tell you what i think you should be doing, so dont judge me on what im doing, im simply asking for someone help not RUDE comments.. but its ok cause im not joining this forum anymore, i think the people here that responded to my post they way they did are rude and dont have anything better to do than be nosey and think they are perfect..