This is just something that has been bouncing around in the vast emptiness of my head for the last week or two. What caused it to get popped in there: was a local story about some parents suing the school because her daughter got in a fight on the school property. It did not really amount to much as far as law suits go. I think she won 2000 or somewhere along those lines.
The post: or my issue is if we dont learn when to: or not to: fight in GS or HS then we do we learn this lesson? Or is the answer to that question never?
For the record I am completely against bullying. I think schools have made great improvements in this area. So I am in no way advocating losing ground on the bullying front.
It just occurs to me that Grade school and High school is when I learned a lot of valuable lessons about fighting. That I can take a normal hit to the head. And that I cant take a normal hit to the nose. That there are things worth fighting over. And things that are not. That you have to be realistic about when to stand and when to run. That punishment for fighting is meted out without regard for the reason of the fight. The fight is punished not the motivation.
I wonder aloud if it makes sense to involve the law (which currently happens locally) for each combatant and each fight with assault charges that could limit a person's opportunities for education and jobs. I.E. If Cole got in a fight to stop someone from picking on his sister. Would it be fair to limit his opportunities to apply at certain education institutions?
Also one side effect of most the fight I had. Was an understanding with the other combatant. Normally I would developed good long lasting friendships with the people I had gotten in a fight with. Bonds were formed.
And the last question: Are we raising a generation who will be afraid to fight. Afraid to stand there ground for what they believe in? Who will become victims as a result of this fear? Is this what we want?
I know it potentially grey's the area of preventing bullying. And that is really what keeps me on the fence. I think bullying has historically been a very major problem. It has been ignored. And sometimes encouraged with disastrous results.
But I am not sure were are not inadvertently creating an even larger issue. You know the old saying "The path to hell is paved with good intentions"
The post: or my issue is if we dont learn when to: or not to: fight in GS or HS then we do we learn this lesson? Or is the answer to that question never?
For the record I am completely against bullying. I think schools have made great improvements in this area. So I am in no way advocating losing ground on the bullying front.
It just occurs to me that Grade school and High school is when I learned a lot of valuable lessons about fighting. That I can take a normal hit to the head. And that I cant take a normal hit to the nose. That there are things worth fighting over. And things that are not. That you have to be realistic about when to stand and when to run. That punishment for fighting is meted out without regard for the reason of the fight. The fight is punished not the motivation.
I wonder aloud if it makes sense to involve the law (which currently happens locally) for each combatant and each fight with assault charges that could limit a person's opportunities for education and jobs. I.E. If Cole got in a fight to stop someone from picking on his sister. Would it be fair to limit his opportunities to apply at certain education institutions?
Also one side effect of most the fight I had. Was an understanding with the other combatant. Normally I would developed good long lasting friendships with the people I had gotten in a fight with. Bonds were formed.
And the last question: Are we raising a generation who will be afraid to fight. Afraid to stand there ground for what they believe in? Who will become victims as a result of this fear? Is this what we want?
I know it potentially grey's the area of preventing bullying. And that is really what keeps me on the fence. I think bullying has historically been a very major problem. It has been ignored. And sometimes encouraged with disastrous results.
But I am not sure were are not inadvertently creating an even larger issue. You know the old saying "The path to hell is paved with good intentions"
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