Hi,
I would appreciate advice on how to cope with my situation. 2 weeks ago my husband and I both found out that he has an 18-year-old daughter from a one night stand in his 20's. He is now 43 years old and we've been together 6 1/2 years and married for 1. (So all this was years before me... But I'm having problems with thoughts of how it will affect us now and going forward). One week before we found out I had a miscarriage (early one of 6 weeks). He did not lie or hide it, and it was a complete shock to both of us. My problem is how to cope with having a new person, his adult daughter, in our lives when it has only been us 2. He wants to have a relationship with her and she does as well. I'm trying but everything is going so fast that I feel like falling apart. I cry everyday and think about this all the time. I specifically decided to not date men with children because I did not want to deal with these feelings. I understand I need to pull my big girl panties up and come up to bat, but I'm having a lot of difficulty accepting her. I want to do the right thing and accept her and be supportive of my husband, but I feel myself resisting and wishing that there was more boundaries and structure... HELP please!
I would appreciate advice on how to cope with my situation. 2 weeks ago my husband and I both found out that he has an 18-year-old daughter from a one night stand in his 20's. He is now 43 years old and we've been together 6 1/2 years and married for 1. (So all this was years before me... But I'm having problems with thoughts of how it will affect us now and going forward). One week before we found out I had a miscarriage (early one of 6 weeks). He did not lie or hide it, and it was a complete shock to both of us. My problem is how to cope with having a new person, his adult daughter, in our lives when it has only been us 2. He wants to have a relationship with her and she does as well. I'm trying but everything is going so fast that I feel like falling apart. I cry everyday and think about this all the time. I specifically decided to not date men with children because I did not want to deal with these feelings. I understand I need to pull my big girl panties up and come up to bat, but I'm having a lot of difficulty accepting her. I want to do the right thing and accept her and be supportive of my husband, but I feel myself resisting and wishing that there was more boundaries and structure... HELP please!