I grew up in the '40s and wet from 5 until 11 when having nocturnal erections helped me wake up. I now can see that terrible stresses and serious misery in our very troubled family contributed to my deep sleeping patterns where I didn't notice an urge to go or had very vivid dreams in which I'd often being peeing! Sometimes I'd wet several times at night which drove my angry, abusive parents NUTS!W.M. said:Just wanted to post my perspective from having grown up with this issue in the late '70s to 1985:
I didn't stop wetting the bed until the very week I hit puberty when I was 11 years old.
LOL, back then no doctor would have DARED tell my very stubborn parents that I was suffering with STRESS due to a horrible and terrifying home life.Back then, my parents were being told it was a mental problem, but that wasn't true.
Same here! My parents tried everything from beatings to shame to rubber sheets, more shaming and finally threw their hands up in the air!I never knew I was wetting the bed, and would wake up the next morning in a puddle of urine. My parents handled the problem with frustration and both physical and mental abuse. I have several blackouts in my childhood memories from very bad moments back then over the stress I was put under.
I identify with those Black Outs!One of them was my father demanding in a rage that I strip in front of him and put on a diaper at the age of 10. I blacked out and never could remember what happened after that.
I'm pretty sure mine was all about emotional stress and trauma and I've spent a lot of years in therapy working on the emotional "damages" from very bad and abusive parenting.I now know that it must be a physical defect from birth. Unfortunately the mental damage cannot be undone
Yes, and it's so weird how so many professionals and parents CANNOT or WILL NOT see that it's directly connected to some kind of trauma or stress in the kid's life and environment! But that would mean examining one self and one's parenting - OH NOOOOOOOOOOOO! ..... better to keep buying rubber sheets and other equipment than to look at your own questionable parenting!so my message to those dealing with this is to please don't take your anger out on the kid. My childhood was destroyed by this and other abuses at home.
I remember that I had tons of NIGHTMARES in those years and believe I slept too deep to sense my bladder because I just wanted out of there! I also didn't recognize the urge because I'd dream of taking a nice, comfortable, relaxing pee in a normal way then wake up to a pool of p!IADad said:(i.e. if he never feels the urge at night, how can he learn to respond to it?)