.... and get a resolution once and for all?
Some of you may know by now that my kid has been going through a tough time. She's getting better and decent help is finally happening after getting the run around last year.
But this latest issue has my daughter upset every night and she dreads going to school. She still gets there, but she isn't enjoying it. Since her birthday, she has lost her long time, best friend for unknown reasons that this ex-friend has never disclosed. Even her mom, who loves my daughter, is baffled.
Another issue, that I'm more irritated with, is this manipulative, controlling, meddling girl, *Bonnie, in her class. She just won't leave my daughter alone and tries to lead all the projects and group work. Bonnie keeps looking over my daughter's shoulder when she's trying to do work. My daughter tried to be friends with Bonnie when they first met. They even had a sleepover that we hosted, once. But soon after, my daughter would come home complaining about Bonnie constantly asking questions about private issues that my daughter is still going through, and won't stop the prying questions when my daughter would tell Bonnie that it's things that she doesn't want to bring Bonnie into. It turned into a game of manipulation where Bonnie, long story short, is now demanding my daughter to forgive her and apologize for not wanting to be her friend.
I've tried to reason the situation with my daughter and tried to give alternate, positive perspectives on what may be going on. I'm not going to force my daughter to be friends with someone she can't get along with, and I'm not going to encourage my daughter to be mean just to get a point across. So, I told her to ignore Bonnie and eventually she will move on. My daughter isn't the only one in the class that is finding this girl annoying, manipulative and nosy. But it's my daughter that Bonnie seems to hover around. I've noticed early on that Bonnie has trouble with boundaries and I've tried having a little, light chat about it when I saw her in the halls at school one day, after she asked me if my daughter was okay and what was wrong, when I had just finished talking to the guidance counsellor. Then she went to her mom upset, saying I was yelling at her. pfft. It was right outside the office. I'm sure if I was yelling someone would have approached me about scolding another student.
Anyways, we have gotten the guidance counsellor involved, the teachers are aware of the situation and nothing is improving.
My daughter is going through anxiety and cried every night about it because she just doesn't feel like she can handle much more of it. Thankfully there's less that 2 month left of school. This issue is affecting my daughter's schoolwork and I'm getting fed up with hearing about Bonnie every evening and weekend. It's to the point I want to go down to the school and just scream at the teachers and the rest of the staff to control the students and take more action when there are students that are disruptive and acting like bullies.
My daughter is being bullied as well, and the teachers and principal have talked to the class about not touching someone and acting like the person has a skin eating disease. These lectures are not helping much.
I'm trying to keep it together and remain level-headed and try to give thought out advice and just try to listen to my daughter and make sure she knows I'm supportive and care about her problems.
However, when it's a school issue there is little I can do. I know my daughter needs to learn to solve her social problems, and she does, usually. It gets too much for her when everything she is doing doesn't work and the problem peer is consistently and everlastingly being a pest. I don't know what else to do other than keep reminding my daughter to ignore Bonnie.
Btw, the guidance counsellor agreed that my daughter should just ignore Bonnie unless the topic is strictly about schoolwork.
I feel sort of bad for Bonnie, at the same time. I don't think she has many friends at all and I know exactly how it feels.
I just want to know what is the next step if nothing else is working.
Homeschooling is not an option. My daughter will be going to the big high school in the fall. It seems like there's no point, or the school will think there is no point, in going forward in any further action. I know the guidance counsellor has talked to Bonnie and nothing is working.
I can't have my daughter crying every night. It's hampering on her mental health and erasing the progress she's made.
Something's gotta give.
Some of you may know by now that my kid has been going through a tough time. She's getting better and decent help is finally happening after getting the run around last year.
But this latest issue has my daughter upset every night and she dreads going to school. She still gets there, but she isn't enjoying it. Since her birthday, she has lost her long time, best friend for unknown reasons that this ex-friend has never disclosed. Even her mom, who loves my daughter, is baffled.
Another issue, that I'm more irritated with, is this manipulative, controlling, meddling girl, *Bonnie, in her class. She just won't leave my daughter alone and tries to lead all the projects and group work. Bonnie keeps looking over my daughter's shoulder when she's trying to do work. My daughter tried to be friends with Bonnie when they first met. They even had a sleepover that we hosted, once. But soon after, my daughter would come home complaining about Bonnie constantly asking questions about private issues that my daughter is still going through, and won't stop the prying questions when my daughter would tell Bonnie that it's things that she doesn't want to bring Bonnie into. It turned into a game of manipulation where Bonnie, long story short, is now demanding my daughter to forgive her and apologize for not wanting to be her friend.
I've tried to reason the situation with my daughter and tried to give alternate, positive perspectives on what may be going on. I'm not going to force my daughter to be friends with someone she can't get along with, and I'm not going to encourage my daughter to be mean just to get a point across. So, I told her to ignore Bonnie and eventually she will move on. My daughter isn't the only one in the class that is finding this girl annoying, manipulative and nosy. But it's my daughter that Bonnie seems to hover around. I've noticed early on that Bonnie has trouble with boundaries and I've tried having a little, light chat about it when I saw her in the halls at school one day, after she asked me if my daughter was okay and what was wrong, when I had just finished talking to the guidance counsellor. Then she went to her mom upset, saying I was yelling at her. pfft. It was right outside the office. I'm sure if I was yelling someone would have approached me about scolding another student.
Anyways, we have gotten the guidance counsellor involved, the teachers are aware of the situation and nothing is improving.
My daughter is going through anxiety and cried every night about it because she just doesn't feel like she can handle much more of it. Thankfully there's less that 2 month left of school. This issue is affecting my daughter's schoolwork and I'm getting fed up with hearing about Bonnie every evening and weekend. It's to the point I want to go down to the school and just scream at the teachers and the rest of the staff to control the students and take more action when there are students that are disruptive and acting like bullies.
My daughter is being bullied as well, and the teachers and principal have talked to the class about not touching someone and acting like the person has a skin eating disease. These lectures are not helping much.
I'm trying to keep it together and remain level-headed and try to give thought out advice and just try to listen to my daughter and make sure she knows I'm supportive and care about her problems.
However, when it's a school issue there is little I can do. I know my daughter needs to learn to solve her social problems, and she does, usually. It gets too much for her when everything she is doing doesn't work and the problem peer is consistently and everlastingly being a pest. I don't know what else to do other than keep reminding my daughter to ignore Bonnie.
Btw, the guidance counsellor agreed that my daughter should just ignore Bonnie unless the topic is strictly about schoolwork.
I feel sort of bad for Bonnie, at the same time. I don't think she has many friends at all and I know exactly how it feels.
I just want to know what is the next step if nothing else is working.
Homeschooling is not an option. My daughter will be going to the big high school in the fall. It seems like there's no point, or the school will think there is no point, in going forward in any further action. I know the guidance counsellor has talked to Bonnie and nothing is working.
I can't have my daughter crying every night. It's hampering on her mental health and erasing the progress she's made.
Something's gotta give.