I am a father of 3 teenagers 19 18 and 15. the older 2 are my sons and the younger one is my stepdaughter. the older is with a 16 which I don't approve the 18 goes from girl to girl which I don't approve. and finally my daughter wants to date a 17 year old from another highschool on the other side of town. of course I don't approve of this either. the problem is that their mother has no problem with this what so ever.
we are constantly fighting about this. the 19 has been sleeping with his girlfriend for about a year. the 18 has had sex before with several different girls. the 17 that is dating my daughter ( they got together on march 16) they knew each other in the 8th grade. they met again on the 15th of march so they hadn't seen each other for about 2 years. she is now a freshmore and he is a junior. I am very computer savy so I check everything I can. ( my wife disagrees with this)
I was able to get on his facebook to see his post. now remember they got together on the 16th. they are already saying "I Love you" in texting and on the phone. some of his post are saying " I cant wait till she wakes up in my arms." pictures of him smoking (not cigerates) I confronted him about this on the phone. and a post on the 15 (before he met her again) was "OMG she was amazing spent the whole night with her and it was sad when I had to leave her house in the morning. During this time my daughter was at a friend house both my sons said that the girls parents would not have let him stay. and she has burglar bars on her window then the next post was that he was going to spend the night again. I confronted him about these post and he played it off. and believe me I was not nice and I told him what I thought of him. he then call my daughter up and told her what I said. I got read the riot act from my wife and daughter that I was being over protective with her I asked my wife to read the post and she wouldn't. I had already showed the post to both of her brothers. they were infuriated as well. he has since deleted all the post and they are still talking on the phone about 1 and a half to 2 hours a day after school.
I am at a loss why doesn't her mother see what kind of a guy this is. am I wrong for poking around their face books. nothing was hidden. although I am capable of doing much more investigating as I said I am very good at computer and have worked at a college in the cyber division.
please help me understand how to deal with this, I am going nut and it is affecting me personally at home and at work. Sometimes I can not even look at my daughter because I am so angry.
this guy is very smooth on what he says and I even told him that they shouldn't be saying I love you so soon.
we are constantly fighting about this. the 19 has been sleeping with his girlfriend for about a year. the 18 has had sex before with several different girls. the 17 that is dating my daughter ( they got together on march 16) they knew each other in the 8th grade. they met again on the 15th of march so they hadn't seen each other for about 2 years. she is now a freshmore and he is a junior. I am very computer savy so I check everything I can. ( my wife disagrees with this)
I was able to get on his facebook to see his post. now remember they got together on the 16th. they are already saying "I Love you" in texting and on the phone. some of his post are saying " I cant wait till she wakes up in my arms." pictures of him smoking (not cigerates) I confronted him about this on the phone. and a post on the 15 (before he met her again) was "OMG she was amazing spent the whole night with her and it was sad when I had to leave her house in the morning. During this time my daughter was at a friend house both my sons said that the girls parents would not have let him stay. and she has burglar bars on her window then the next post was that he was going to spend the night again. I confronted him about these post and he played it off. and believe me I was not nice and I told him what I thought of him. he then call my daughter up and told her what I said. I got read the riot act from my wife and daughter that I was being over protective with her I asked my wife to read the post and she wouldn't. I had already showed the post to both of her brothers. they were infuriated as well. he has since deleted all the post and they are still talking on the phone about 1 and a half to 2 hours a day after school.
I am at a loss why doesn't her mother see what kind of a guy this is. am I wrong for poking around their face books. nothing was hidden. although I am capable of doing much more investigating as I said I am very good at computer and have worked at a college in the cyber division.
please help me understand how to deal with this, I am going nut and it is affecting me personally at home and at work. Sometimes I can not even look at my daughter because I am so angry.
this guy is very smooth on what he says and I even told him that they shouldn't be saying I love you so soon.