Sooo.... I guess the forum where I'm posting says it.
Yup, GF is pregnant.
Ok. I'll give you a minute...
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... everyone over their shock? Yes? Good. Cause I'm not. But anyway...
So, obviously things are about to change, big time. We've already discussed the fact that it would be an obvious thing to move in together. This was not a one-night-stand and neither are we a couple of teenagers, sneaking around, having sex behind our parents' backs. We are responsible adults and we are in love, so it wouldn't make any sense to bring this kid up in two separate homes. It wouldn't make any sense to make a pregnant woman go home alone when the father of her child could be there to support her and take care of her. The truth is that we probably would have done this in the end. Just not this soon!
Ok, maybe the "responsible" part is debatable, but she was on the pill! We really thought we were taking all the necessary precautions!
So the advice I need (or rather, the part I think you guys can help me with) is really around my DD - she's been through more change in her life than any 6 year old should have had to cope with. Now, she's going to go through more. Daddy's GF is about to become a for-real step mom. They already have a really great relationship, but I can't forget how she reacted when she realized that we were more than friends, so I don't want to spring another surprise on her. The fact remains that for more than half her life, it's been just me and her, and everyone else just came to visit, so having my GF move in will be a huge adjustment for her. I have no idea how to handle that to make it as easy as possible for her.
And then she'll also gain a sibling... with all the usual issues that come with having a second child...
We don't have a scared smily. Dammit. How am I supposed to tell you guys I'm scared out of my mind without one?
Yup, GF is pregnant.
Ok. I'll give you a minute...
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
... everyone over their shock? Yes? Good. Cause I'm not. But anyway...
So, obviously things are about to change, big time. We've already discussed the fact that it would be an obvious thing to move in together. This was not a one-night-stand and neither are we a couple of teenagers, sneaking around, having sex behind our parents' backs. We are responsible adults and we are in love, so it wouldn't make any sense to bring this kid up in two separate homes. It wouldn't make any sense to make a pregnant woman go home alone when the father of her child could be there to support her and take care of her. The truth is that we probably would have done this in the end. Just not this soon!
Ok, maybe the "responsible" part is debatable, but she was on the pill! We really thought we were taking all the necessary precautions!
So the advice I need (or rather, the part I think you guys can help me with) is really around my DD - she's been through more change in her life than any 6 year old should have had to cope with. Now, she's going to go through more. Daddy's GF is about to become a for-real step mom. They already have a really great relationship, but I can't forget how she reacted when she realized that we were more than friends, so I don't want to spring another surprise on her. The fact remains that for more than half her life, it's been just me and her, and everyone else just came to visit, so having my GF move in will be a huge adjustment for her. I have no idea how to handle that to make it as easy as possible for her.
And then she'll also gain a sibling... with all the usual issues that come with having a second child...
We don't have a scared smily. Dammit. How am I supposed to tell you guys I'm scared out of my mind without one?