I am going to try to make a long story short.
I have a 17 year old daughter (soon to be 18). Her dad and I divorced 2 years ago, I now have a fiance that I will soon marry. About 3 months ago I got into an argument with my daughter and took her phone away. I found out all in one afternoon (and a search of her phone) that she has been ditching school, smoking pot and that her boyfriend was doing a pot deal by text from her phone. The straw that broke the camels back so to speak is when she posted my private medical issues on her Facebook page for all to read. I knew I had no control of her and drove her to live with her Father across town. He told me he would help straighten her out, etc. Instead it has turned into an opportunity for him to get in her good graces. He bought her a new cell phone, money for the prom and last I heard is paying for her apartment when she turns 18 in a few weeks. My daughter and I haven't spoken in almost 3 months. I sent her a "we miss you and still love you" note about a month ago, no reply.
I am heartbroken. Everyone says she will grow out of this and come back into our lives. I am thinking she is gone forever. When I mention the things to her Father that he is messing up on he doesn't even respond to me.
Half the time I am feeling like I must have done something wrong in my parenting, and the other half of the time I am so angry with her. I don't know what to think, or do....
Has anyone else gone through this? It is crushing me
I have a 17 year old daughter (soon to be 18). Her dad and I divorced 2 years ago, I now have a fiance that I will soon marry. About 3 months ago I got into an argument with my daughter and took her phone away. I found out all in one afternoon (and a search of her phone) that she has been ditching school, smoking pot and that her boyfriend was doing a pot deal by text from her phone. The straw that broke the camels back so to speak is when she posted my private medical issues on her Facebook page for all to read. I knew I had no control of her and drove her to live with her Father across town. He told me he would help straighten her out, etc. Instead it has turned into an opportunity for him to get in her good graces. He bought her a new cell phone, money for the prom and last I heard is paying for her apartment when she turns 18 in a few weeks. My daughter and I haven't spoken in almost 3 months. I sent her a "we miss you and still love you" note about a month ago, no reply.
I am heartbroken. Everyone says she will grow out of this and come back into our lives. I am thinking she is gone forever. When I mention the things to her Father that he is messing up on he doesn't even respond to me.
Half the time I am feeling like I must have done something wrong in my parenting, and the other half of the time I am so angry with her. I don't know what to think, or do....
Has anyone else gone through this? It is crushing me