<r><FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>>>He doesn't know how to tie his shoes, and he REFUSES to try and learn.<e></e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>Buy him Velcro ones until his attitude changes. <e></e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>>>I have to literally dress him every morning because he flat-out refuses (and makes him late for school/me late for work).<e></e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>You’re still babying him, and therefore he has no incentive to grow out of it. <e></e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>Try this, and be firm: <e></e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>Tell him he has the choice not to get dressed if he doesn’t want to, but you’re not going to do it for him. He’ll whine, or resist....but take him to school dressed in his pajamas. Don’t even let him see that it bothers you, just lay it out for him plain and simple. “You can get dressed, or you can go to school like this…it doesn’t matter to me!†After a day or two in PJs, he'll wise up.<e></e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>>>>He won't clean up his toys unless my fiance bribes him (no amount of reasoning from me works).<e></e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>Lol…why are you even trying to reason with a 5 year old? Do you really think you can? Do you think he’s all in a sudden going to think like a mature adult? You can’t reason with kids, or discuss things – you just tell them how it’s going to be. <e></e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>In this instance, you just say “Hey, you don’t have to clean up your toys…it’s fine by me! I’ll do it for you! Nice, hey!?†Then, pick up EVERYTHING, and put them away for couple days. He’ll cry his eyes out, but he needs to know that you mean business. Every time he doesn’t put his toys away the first time you ask….you do this. You give him a choice, and if he trys to fight it, just put everything up for a couple of days. This will break him easy once you show him that you will be consistent. <e></e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>>>>He won't play with his toys alone, and he won't study or do anything that requires work. If he doesn't succeed at something the first or second time, he throws a fit and completely gives up.<e></e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>Well that’s natural for babied kids. You brought this on, but the good news is that it can be undone – it’ll just take some time and work. Everything he’s learned about life needs to be undone…so you’ll have to be patient. <e></e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s><FONT font="Verdana"></s>Just say "hey, you don't have to play alone now...you can do nothing!" Your choice! Let him understand that it is HIS choice in everything. <br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>>>>Every time I need him to do something for himself, it's a battle.<e></e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>It shouldn’t be. Just do what I said and stay calm. Let him make the decision to clean up, get dressed, or whatever. It will be easy for you because you just remove his toys, or take him to school in PJ’s, or let him lose dessert, or whatever is the consequence. That’s easy – no struggling involved. It’s easier for you to put him in the car and take him to school as opposed to get him dressed. <e></e></FONT><br/>
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<FONT font="Verdana"><s></s>He needs to know that he needs to do things for himself. As long as you and fiancé are helping him…he’s not learning anything…in fact it’s just reinforcing what he already knows – that you will do everything for him. <e></e></FONT><br/>
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