I will try to make this quick. ---This is small in comparison to other post I have read...i get that...nonetheless....
I am married to a great husband who has a son that is 10. We get a long very well IMO. Our relationship has grown over the years. I have been in the picture since SS10 was 3.5. His mother is also very involved in his life. I get along great with his mother hence the name..."NOMAMADRAMA."
Anyhow. I don't know if I am just being overly sensitive and I would rather hear it from other step parents not parents that have THE kid.
Bascially, if I happen to be laying on my husband SS will come over and get in between us or on my husbands other side and say "jokingly" my daddy! Or this is my dad and not yours (though he is joking.....:yikes. I don't really like it and honestly it bothers me.
He always refers to his dad as my dad. Like he will be talking having regular conversation and say stuff like my dad took me to the store to get some milk. Or my dad bought me this bike (hello, money came from us both...) or My dad and I .... were doing .... I try to correct him and tell him to just say dad. I have told him numerous times that he doesn't need to keep referring to him to me or any family memeber as "my dad." JUST CALL HIM DAD!!
Today I was sitting on my husbands lap and we were talking then SS rushes over and pushes me out the way again "playing:yikes:" and says this is my Dad not yours. Then I said well he is my husband not yours ...."joking" but not.... My husband laughs and goes...Now guys theres plenty of me to go around for everyone.... BOY IS HE LOVIN THIS. I have explained to him that I don't like when he plays like that and i don't like it when he my husband, slightly encourages it in a joking manner. I have also asked him to help me out and get his son to just refer to him as dad and not my dad...it is weird. I never call my own dad "my dad..." to my other siblings or family members unless I am really trying to distinguish between my dads and someone elses. I feel like a sideliner especially since SS mother is involved and has a very positive strong bond with son which I strongly advocate and support. I guess since he has a good relay with his mom and dad...sometimes I can feel like an intruder/sideliner (I have been in the picture for 7 years again back down to when he was 3.5).
I just want to know am I just being over sensitive and jealous or do I have somewhat of a point. I am not open to hearing my husbands comments because he is not a step parent and can never know what it feels like. I think he is being insensitive...What are your thoughts?
I am married to a great husband who has a son that is 10. We get a long very well IMO. Our relationship has grown over the years. I have been in the picture since SS10 was 3.5. His mother is also very involved in his life. I get along great with his mother hence the name..."NOMAMADRAMA."
Anyhow. I don't know if I am just being overly sensitive and I would rather hear it from other step parents not parents that have THE kid.
Bascially, if I happen to be laying on my husband SS will come over and get in between us or on my husbands other side and say "jokingly" my daddy! Or this is my dad and not yours (though he is joking.....:yikes. I don't really like it and honestly it bothers me.
He always refers to his dad as my dad. Like he will be talking having regular conversation and say stuff like my dad took me to the store to get some milk. Or my dad bought me this bike (hello, money came from us both...) or My dad and I .... were doing .... I try to correct him and tell him to just say dad. I have told him numerous times that he doesn't need to keep referring to him to me or any family memeber as "my dad." JUST CALL HIM DAD!!
Today I was sitting on my husbands lap and we were talking then SS rushes over and pushes me out the way again "playing:yikes:" and says this is my Dad not yours. Then I said well he is my husband not yours ...."joking" but not.... My husband laughs and goes...Now guys theres plenty of me to go around for everyone.... BOY IS HE LOVIN THIS. I have explained to him that I don't like when he plays like that and i don't like it when he my husband, slightly encourages it in a joking manner. I have also asked him to help me out and get his son to just refer to him as dad and not my dad...it is weird. I never call my own dad "my dad..." to my other siblings or family members unless I am really trying to distinguish between my dads and someone elses. I feel like a sideliner especially since SS mother is involved and has a very positive strong bond with son which I strongly advocate and support. I guess since he has a good relay with his mom and dad...sometimes I can feel like an intruder/sideliner (I have been in the picture for 7 years again back down to when he was 3.5).
I just want to know am I just being over sensitive and jealous or do I have somewhat of a point. I am not open to hearing my husbands comments because he is not a step parent and can never know what it feels like. I think he is being insensitive...What are your thoughts?