So my wife is a stepparent to my now 18 yr old son. We have had full custody for 8 years and 50% prior to that. My wife has had an amazing relationship with him for 15 years. Now she loves him but dislikes him. She hates that his birthmother does nothing for him and we had to take her to court to get a lousy $25/week support (she immediately became disabled when she lost the case).
Anyway, my wife also hates the fact that she feels he is lazy like his mother. Currently he's a full time college student. He spends too much time sleeping and playing video games I agree. He ended up with a B,B-, C+ and had to drop one class after attending the entire semester. I had already told him that we would pay for A' and B's, but nothing else, so the others will come from his college saving fund.
She wants him to get a job (continue school) and start paying for his own car insurance ($200/month). She's tired of seeing him so lazy. I think it would be different if he got all A's, but he's never been an academic, and he's always been a bad test taker. He never misses class, is in good shape, and uses no alcohol or drugs.
What should I do?
Anyway, my wife also hates the fact that she feels he is lazy like his mother. Currently he's a full time college student. He spends too much time sleeping and playing video games I agree. He ended up with a B,B-, C+ and had to drop one class after attending the entire semester. I had already told him that we would pay for A' and B's, but nothing else, so the others will come from his college saving fund.
She wants him to get a job (continue school) and start paying for his own car insurance ($200/month). She's tired of seeing him so lazy. I think it would be different if he got all A's, but he's never been an academic, and he's always been a bad test taker. He never misses class, is in good shape, and uses no alcohol or drugs.
What should I do?