So I recently received custody of my younger 6-year old brother. I've been trying my best to take care of him but I've been feeling as if he's getting neglected.
I'm 20 and I try to spend as much time with him as possible, but between college and work I barely get 5 hours of sleep. I just moved into a new apartment because I felt my old place didn't leave much space for him to play, but I seemed to forget that he needs someone to play with.
I just can't, I've been wracking my brain for the past couple months trying to think of someway to re-arrange my schedule to spend more time with him but I just can't. I'm already feeling overwhelmed enough as it is. I really REALLY hate asking him to be patient a bit more, I think he suffered enough by being with my family.
So since I moved him here, I can't simply find anyone for him to play with. The neighbourhood is pretty kid-friendly and I know a lot of the people near us, but unfortunately, none of them have kids his age to play with. Plus I don't trust just anyone to take care of him.
The rest of my family don't want anything to do with me and won't even pick up when I *tried* calling them, since I'm apparently the illegitimate son. Either way, I don't want them around him. They're a negative influence and are verbally abusive. I got yelled at enough as a kid, I don't want him to have to deal with their radical methodes of socialising.
What should I do? I need to find some playmates for him and fast, I don't want him to start feeling as if he's lonely. But at the same time I don't want to be out of his life, I don't want to be the type of person to dump him on another couple and leave for the rest of the day. I really do enjoy spending time with him.
Work is too important and I can't lower my hours, college is getting more and more difficult, especially with the subject I'm taking. If I fall behind I could end up flunking completely. The only other option I could think of is finding a hobby, but I keep thinking he maybe too young for one, and I don't want him to become an internet addict, so that's out of the question.
So what do you suggest? I would appreciate any help whatsoever. This would really help me sleep at night if I could solve this once and for all.
Thanks for reading.
-randomperson
I'm 20 and I try to spend as much time with him as possible, but between college and work I barely get 5 hours of sleep. I just moved into a new apartment because I felt my old place didn't leave much space for him to play, but I seemed to forget that he needs someone to play with.
I just can't, I've been wracking my brain for the past couple months trying to think of someway to re-arrange my schedule to spend more time with him but I just can't. I'm already feeling overwhelmed enough as it is. I really REALLY hate asking him to be patient a bit more, I think he suffered enough by being with my family.
So since I moved him here, I can't simply find anyone for him to play with. The neighbourhood is pretty kid-friendly and I know a lot of the people near us, but unfortunately, none of them have kids his age to play with. Plus I don't trust just anyone to take care of him.
The rest of my family don't want anything to do with me and won't even pick up when I *tried* calling them, since I'm apparently the illegitimate son. Either way, I don't want them around him. They're a negative influence and are verbally abusive. I got yelled at enough as a kid, I don't want him to have to deal with their radical methodes of socialising.
What should I do? I need to find some playmates for him and fast, I don't want him to start feeling as if he's lonely. But at the same time I don't want to be out of his life, I don't want to be the type of person to dump him on another couple and leave for the rest of the day. I really do enjoy spending time with him.
Work is too important and I can't lower my hours, college is getting more and more difficult, especially with the subject I'm taking. If I fall behind I could end up flunking completely. The only other option I could think of is finding a hobby, but I keep thinking he maybe too young for one, and I don't want him to become an internet addict, so that's out of the question.
So what do you suggest? I would appreciate any help whatsoever. This would really help me sleep at night if I could solve this once and for all.
Thanks for reading.
-randomperson
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